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Has anyone transitioned their kids from private to public school or vice versa? How hard was the adjustment for you and your kiddos? Any regrets?

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If anybody works in BigLaw, has a spouse with a demanding career, and has kids, how do you do it? Is it worth it if you don't need the money to pay off loans and/or afford a comfortable lifestyle?… more

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