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Hi Fishes Post submission of documents, after clearing all the interviews, the fmr recruitment team was saying that my home point is not in the boundary of transport as per cab team saying that my home point was 4km beyond the boundary and it's mandatory to drop at home point through cab for female employees, does they turn down the candidature due to this, what should I do in this scenario please guide me Fidelity Investments
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You have to have the hard conversation with him again when he can hear you and focus. My husband had a job where he was on the road almost all the time, worked insane hours, etc. We also stopped having sex because he was never home. I finally told him he had to put our marriage first so he found a new job. We’re still together now but it has taken years to restore what was broken in that time. Don’t let this go too long before you can’t repair it.
Thank you sincerely for your input. And I'm glad you two are getting to a better place together!
I am the husband in my case. 7 am to 2 am, sometimes including weekends for months at end. We were planning for a transaction and hence crazy hours. I love the work I do, so struggled with the boundaries.
What was happening?
- My leadership was absent as I was getting things done ‘whatever it takes’
- Some of my team was incapable, I was subsidizing for them heavily because I would feel bad booting them
- I had high standards, which made great the enemy of good
What pinched:
- I knew my wife was being super understanding and I couldn’t take her for granted (quite likely your husband too feels this way)
- My health was starting to get impacted
How it changed:
- looped my leadership in all important discussions for giving them visibility. Practically my senior partner was the first person I’d email asking / telling next steps so he could appreciate the volume
- removed a team member who was always negative and caused others to lose enthusiasm
- brought my standard down a bit. Only focused on delivering enough that will give me a chance to stand another day in the battle, I didn’t have to win it the first day
I hope your husband is able to get out of this sooner.
Thank you for your insight, and I'm so glad to hear you were able to get things to a better place for yourself and your partner!
He works insane hours into the night (say, 7:30a-2a). I try to take care of the majority of things, cooking, errands, the house, etc.
Recently I became aware of how lonely it's starting to feel...going to bed on my own most nights, things like that.
I feel awful because I crave physical contact and sex, which isn't happening because he's exhausted.
I finally said something earlier this week and cried myself to sleep while he passed out next to me in bed.
I don't know what to do, and it sucks. 😔
I was showing some signs of this although nowhere near as bad. I changed companies. Life has been much better. Nowadays I aim to work 8-9 hour days on average. Some days might be big but I do an informal time off in lieu before the deficit becomes too big to recover.