11 year age gap too much? Mid 20s and mid 30s

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If you're over 25 and brains fully developed I see no major problem. I always find it a lil predatory when ppl are 24 or below and dating ppl in their 30s.

Human brains aren't even fully developing yet making it easier to manipulate younger folks which is what a lot of older ppl are doing when they date young ppl. They know ppl their own age that are fully developed wont put up with their bs so they find a young girl that will.

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Guess what! You get to decide. Enjoy.

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My husband is ten years older. I met him when I was 21. I have an old soul and he’s young spirited, so it works.

Just consider that they’ll likely be more advanced in their career/different stages in life , so there could be some conflict there. 10/11 years would probably be my limit though.

I think we have to be careful with judging women in age gap relationships. (Not talking about extreme gaps here). People speak about women as if we aren’t able to make sound decisions and need protection, and it borderlines anti-feminist. But that’s just my opinion lol

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Exactly MAS 1 and MC 1!

My parents have a 14 year age gap and have been married for over 40 years.

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After about 26/27, don't think it's much of an issue. But it's less about the age gap and more about whether you are both comfortable with it and whether you both are at similar stages in your life.

The challenge comes in when one or the other is very insecure about the situation and is easily swayed by comments from others.

Another challenge is when the power dynamics are heavily skewed because one person is more experienced in many ways and sort of set in their ways. And when I say more experienced, I mean in multiple dimensions. Career, sex, relationship, living on their own, financial milestones, etc.

Only you can really get a sense of whether or not there could be a balance in the relationship, or if it's going to feel sort of teacher/student like.

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Who’s older? It can work either way if it’s what you want; I’m just curious.

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You mean relationship-wise?

Yes

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I personally think so... but thats because i consider kids, future health, stamina when their older... etc.

Men’s biological clocks aren’t comparable to women. They can reproduce until death. That said, most older men don’t have impotence issues (but it is known that ALL men have insecurities about their size and performance, which may attribute to general dynamics of sex life). That said, older men typically have the advantage of more resources than their younger counterparts.

It depends on what your objectives are for the relationship and what types of conflict you're able/willing to face.

Assuming this is a serious, long term partnership, there are the obvious downsides (like power imbalance), but some upsides (like you're less likely to start handling boths sets of aging parents right at the same time).

Nope!

Not if the man is older. Yes if the woman is

MAS1 - I’m open to hearing about these trends you speak of that would contradict my points

80% of divorces are initiated by women and that the #1 cause is due to finances. In short, financial issues are causing women to exit marriages. Additionally, the worldwide trend of women being the household breadwinners does not exist whereas single mother households are primarily in poverty. As the general population are productive workers and wages and disposable income increase with time, these “trends” are indicating we (women) do not deem younger men, with less resource than us, as our ideal options (especially not 10 years younger).

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