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22 and I finally feel somewhat ready to come out to my parents. Probably going to do it in a few weeks or a month, wish me luck !

Any tips ? My parents aren’t that religious, but they’re originally from a rather conservative country. I’ve been conditioning them over the years by talking about random gay stuff and gauging their opinions/reaction whenever LGBT things come on tv. So far, it’s been okay, but I’m still scared to come out. I’m their only child and I don’t want to disappoint them 🥺

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Don’t overthink it. Even the best planned speeches will crumble in the moment.

It’s gonna be okay though.

Your parents love you.

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I just came out to my parents on the weekend, they too are from a conservative country but have lived here for 15 years and very religious. Surprised how well it went! Take your time but it does feel awesome doing it!

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Honestly, they probably already know. You’ll be fine and we are keeping you in our thoughts! 💛

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I came out to my parents at 22 as well (M), before moving to a new city post-graduation. While I wasn’t very concerned about them taking it poorly (although they definitely didn’t have any idea!), I felt more comfortable coming out to them once I was moving out and financially independent. If you are living with them due to COVID and are concerned, I’d think about where you’d want to be staying if things go poorly or if you might want to wait a bit until things blow over.

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Also worth saying that my parents took things super well and my life is 100% better since coming out (about year ago)! I am so so happy I came out to them. DMs are always open if you need somebody to talk to.

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Don’t stress about disappointing them. They’ll probably feel it initially, but they’ll come around. Think more about not disappointing yourself.

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I made sure I had the talk with them in a time and place comfortable for me, when I knew how many uninterrupted hours we would have together to discuss (kind of to control the situation, because for me it was somewhat about showing I’m an adult in control and not a kid following their expectations/rules). Anyway...things went well, with tears and hugs all at once, and honestly our relationship at the time was strained, but opening up instead of hiding things from them improved things.

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Where are your parents form if you don’t mind sharing? Can relate

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Almost everyone I know (minus one person who hid themselves so well by masquerading as a flaming conservative for 30 years) who comes out to their parents received the “we knew we were just waiting.” So don’t be surprised if it really turns into sort of a no big deal; granted I don’t know much about Ethiopian culture

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