24 yo living in nyc, nearly all of my friends have boyfriends/partners and I’ve been feeling like I’m never going to find my person. Does anyone feel the same or have any words of wisdom?

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Meghan Markle was a 35 year old divorcée who met and married a prince of England. Sometimes it takes time but I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

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Honestly you should be single at 24 in my opinion. Spend time on yourself and enjoying the city. Find some single girlfriends to explore with. Date. Just enjoy it and have fun.

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No words of wisdom. Just letting you know I'm a couple years older and feel the exact same 😔

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You’re young. Honestly this might be some weird advice but find some single friends too. I’m not saying don’t hang out with your friends in relationships but having some single friends will also help.

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24 is so young!!! You have the rest of your life to find someone who will be perfect for you

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50% of those friends will be divorced by 30. Just enjoy your life

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This was me at 25. I’m 29 now and married, enjoy your youth and single life!!!

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Just put yourself out there as much as possible (I know it’s been hard due to the pandemic but hopefully it’ll continue to get better), and just try to have fun with it. It’s mentally easier if you approach dates initially in a more “lighthearted” way than putting the goal of finding your person front and center in your head. You’ll be pleasantly surprised when you do find your person, and honestly it’s just luck sometimes to run into the right person at the right time.

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Wait til you’re 30 😂😭

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24 is amazing time. Make memories for yourself and find out what you like/don’t like as a self sufficient adult. Will help your relationship and friendships down the road.

Some of your paired friends will end up with those partners and some won’t. Don’t let it impact your joy. Make some new friends and explore on your own too!

I am coming up on my 20 year anniversary of living in NYC. I have so many memories that are mine and not tied to another person that maybe I don’t talk to anymore (romantic or otherwise). I cherish them.

You will find many people you connect with - some for a few months and some for longer. Confidence in yourself and your judgement will help you sort out the people who should stay in your life.

If it takes awhile to find your person it’s A.
Ok to be sad about it and B. OK to be picky. I think I have finally found mine and I am early 40s.

Good luck friend - you’re just at the start and I envy you!

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I lived in NYC for 2.5 years from 24-26 and it was the time of my life. I was single the whole time too and wouldn’t trade it for the world. I’m now back where I grew up (still a major city, but different coast) and in a serious relationship. I feel ready to be in that relationship because I was able to be young and free during those earlier times. Trust me, ENJOY IT

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Same situation from 23 to 28 in nyc when I met my husband. I had a blast single, I encourage you too also! You’ll meet someone when the time is right

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Wait.

Definitely enjoy the city now that is reopening.
Make single friends.
Date for fun, if you can handle it.
Don't get tied down to one guy unless he is truly worth it and his actions over time prove it.
When you do find someone worth it, it is a wonderful thing.

In the meantime,

Enjoy your youth, girl!

Keep dating, it’s a numbers game, but remember the enjoy the journey to find your special someone too.

just turned 25 & same haha

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