26 Y/O Mexican Born, if my SO and I have kids, Mexican culture is super important to me. SO is American. Adult fish in similar situations, how have you prioritized language and culture for your kids?

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Get a mexican nanny

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Smarttttt didn't occur to me šŸ˜œ

No kids myself but as someone mixed race, my parents made sure I learned about both sides of my culture. Chinese school on Saturdays and church and Italian, family style lunches on Sundays. Dad taught me and mom Italian, and mom taught dad some Chinese and we would do my Chinese homework together. We celebrated Christmas, and would participate in Chinese New Year. My folks showed me how beautiful both cultures are, and to be proud of both.

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Haha yeah it was pretty great. Always hilarious to see my parents joke around who had the better noodles

Honestly, take them to Mexico for a year and theyā€™ll adjust. Kidding. Iā€™m Mexican born and my siblings struggle with this. You have to expose them a lot and try to speak to them mostly in Spanish at home and itā€™s hard because unless your SO is willing to learn Spanish and you keep everyone on check about speaking it, your kids are going to have some pocho Spanglish situation going.

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American Born Indian, who wound up being quite American.

The things that still tie me to Indian Culture are the lessons I learned from my Grandparents. The values & religion. The extended family.

My extended family retained more of it, by going to many more Indian Community events and moving / growing up in an Indian community / town. Meanwhile, I did not.

Movies and music are good for language.

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Start by giving your kid a very Mexican name!

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Elmer Homero

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I am learning Spanish so my SO and I can speak only Spanish in the house with future kids. We plan to live in his home country for at least two years and otherwise spend 2 weeks there each year.

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Started with 15 minutes a day on Duolingo. It was an easy way to start getting a grasp of the language. Iā€™ve hit 3 years now, and I take private tutoring at this point. Iā€™m fully conversational but definitely struggle with grammar, which private tutoring helps a ton with.

Definitely would recommend exclusively speaking to your kids in Spanish. My mom did/does this with me and if she didnā€™t, I never would have learned because itā€™s way more convenient to communicate in English. Theyā€™ll learn English from school/SO.

Aside from the basics (cook cultural foods, celebrate holidays, play cultural music), I feel like having friends who are Mexican would make a big difference. At some point I was kind of mentally rejecting my culture bc I just associated it with my strict upbringing, and being American seemed way more fun lol but I started identifying with my culture more when I realized there are a lot of shared experiences between me and my friends.

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Iā€™m in the same boat but Indian (Iā€™m of Indian heritage, soon to be wife is white
ā€” weā€™re both American born though which is a bit different).

Iā€™ll do what my parents did to some extent by incorporating all the parts of Indian culture that I was taught (food, movies, language, etc.). Also important they see their motherland so they can see their roots.

Youā€™re a little lucky that Mexican culture is so prevalent in some parts of the US and that Spanish is spoken so heavily. Gives more of a pragmatic purpose of your kids learning their roots.

Mexican culture is only important to you if you have kids?

Give you the benefit of the doubt that you're not trying to be inflammatory. I can freely display my pride, I am fluent in Spanish, actively display my pride, etc. But raising children in another country you run the risk of diluting that since I will on make up one small piece of their daily influence. I want them to feel the love and pride that I have for my country, culture, and people.

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I am also a proud Mexican & culture is really important to me as well. I donā€™t have kids but I do fear that they wonā€™t know Spanish well seeing that my Spanish has gotten worse throughout the years (my parents speak both English and Spanish to my siblings & I). But growing up I was raised listening to Spanish music, watching Spanish tv, going to local Mexican neighborhoods and restaurants, & visiting my parents hometown in Mexico every year-those experiences have made me so proud of my culture. Family & tradition are core Mexican values and if you & your SO make the effort to expose your future children to Mexican music,television,food etc..Iā€™m sure your kids will grow up being proud of their roots as well:)

American born to malaysian-chinese immigrants here šŸ‘‹šŸ» my parents experienced a lot of racism when they immigrated here, so they rejected a lot of the culture and did not pass it on to me. i donā€™t fully subscribe to american culture, but also donā€™t feel like i have any pride or knowledge of any other cultural heritage either. i think something that ive seen can help kids be proud of their roots is finding a community that can resonate with their experiences (i.e. comparing encounters with la chancla). additionally, exposing them to songs/movies/celebrities/pop culture with mexican influence can help them understand how their heritage has influenced american culture as well

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