27. virgin. Feeling apprehensive about sharing this with a new guy I’m dating. I just don’t want an overreaction about it . I’ve done pretty much everything else with guys but I just wanted to wait...

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It should not be the centerpiece of any conversation but it is part of who you are. Let him find out as part of the process of slowly getting to know you. If he feels strongly about who you are then it should not be an issue for either of you. You should be proud of yourself for being in such control of both your body and yourself. At this point please make sure you don’t waste it on the wrong guy. I wish you well.

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Own it, girl. You do you. Don't feel the need to bring it up artificially.

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Don't bring it up. It shouldn't change anything if you are or not

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When she sleeps w someone he will know

Why is this a negative? I would be overjoyed to hear that. It means you are different then 99% of the world.

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I didn’t lose my virginity until really late either, but ironically I don’t think losing my virginity is the biggest deal - it’s just the same big deal as every other time I was going to have sex lol. I did let the guy know I wasn’t very experienced but wasn’t going to think losing my virginity is the big deal society tells me it is, which made him a lot more concerned for my comfort and enjoyment, so that’s one pro to letting the guy know you haven’t lost your virginity. A decent guy wouldn’t care.

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You don’t need to be ashamed of it or embarrassed about it. I’m a guy in a similar position and I’ve never found any who found it to be an issue. People respect it and if they don’t that’s on them. It’s the one thing you can only give once and I think it means a lot to your future spouse that they meant enough to you for you to wait even long before you knew who they were

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I respect your life choices but people can swipe and have sex tonight. Men and woman both like sex is it’s done right

HMU

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How has no one called out “Gatehouse media 1” for completely inappropriate and insensitive responses?

OP i hope you don’t listen — this should not impact the relationship. If it does - shame on him. Move on. 💁🏽‍♀️

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I don't know. I'd like a good boy every one in awhile.....

I'm really proud of you. I hope you meet the perfect mate soon!

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I was also older — 22 — because I wanted to really, really like the guy before I had sex with him. Dated some guys that were nice, but I didn’t care enough about them to have an intimate relationship. My first time was with a serious boyfriend and there were no regrets. I think there’s a big difference between waiting for the right person vs waiting for marriage. Most guys not looking for just a hookup would wait a little bit as the relationship develops if they like you. Waiting for marriage is a lot more challenging. But it sounds like you’re in the first category. Might be worth a conversation just to let him know where you’re at.

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No need to bring it up. But good girls are what most guys want for marriage material anyway

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No need to bring this up. It should not change anything.

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At least your first time won’t be a drunk one night stand like mine was! Good luck to you both!

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Make your boundaries and stand by them. With that said, a large majority of guys are sexually active. I would suggest not bringing it up and if he tries to make a move (hopefully that’s a couple dates down the line) you can let him know. That always some time where he can date you and see if he’s willing to make that commitment.

Side note: some dudes are dogs and will continue to press the issue even when he said he’s cool.

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For the right guy to have sex but dating where I live is not easy and it just took longer then I expected. Now I’m not sure how I feel about letting it go on for so long. Any thoughts or similar experiences?

Is it more taboo for the guy to be a virgin?

Yes

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Same boat...you are not the only one!!!

At the end of the day if you don’t out eventually he will move on. How long all depends on the guy. There’s a three date rule and it’s completely understandable why guys move on after that

Agree with EY4.

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