28 weeks pregnant and have to decide whether I am willing to fly to India to conduct workshop with my offshore team. My obgyn didn’t say anything. However my colleagues said...

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Yeah I wouldn’t do it. I spent a summer there, took all the precautions, and still got overwhelmingly sick multiple times. Would not want to deal with that while pregnant, risk any of the other diseases (malaria, typhoid, etc.) or take the chance of having to deliver over there

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No, man. It also sets a poor expectation for others after you who may find themselves in your position.

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If you’ve never been to India, I’d recommend not doing your first trip while pregnant. It does take discipline to avoid eating or drinking the wrong things to keep yourself healthy. And I have had plenty of friends get sick while traveling and only staying in fancy hotels.
The concerns about the heat should also not be understated. And Zika is now everywhere, but still an absolute risk. I’m actually going to India this summer and was advised by my OB to hold off on trying to conceive #2 for 2 months after I return. She would not have let me go if i were already pregnant.
If you do decide to go, you should def ask your OB about travel meds and vaccines (esp Hep A, which is food born). If you haven’t had these shots before I’m not sure if safe to get them while pregnant. And you prob shouldn’t use most mosquito repellents w/ deet either
To sum up- I’ve traveled a lot in Africa, India, and SE Asia. They’re wonderful places but I really wouldn’t do any of those trips while 28wks pregnant. Best of luck with your decision

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Don’t even brush your teeth with the water there. It’s going to be in the height of summer (south India temperature can go up to 38-40). Any advise?

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I had a training to deliver in India during my 2nd pregnancy and my doctor vetoed due to zika

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Surprised by some of the comments here. Im an indian woman and can assure you its not one giant slum. The 5 start properties in india are unmatched in the states except to the st regis

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Being in India is less worrisome to me than the flight & travel - being in a plane with limited ability to stretch & walk is miserable at 28 weeks and flying is dehydrating and makes you swollen. I stopped travel domestically at 27 weeks.

Also agree that is a great point to start setting boundaries; it's awesome the team sees you as so valuable - perhaps you can video conference in to portions of the workshop.

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Don't do it. Flight is too long. Don't start things off afraid to say no. You'll be saying no to a lot of work things after baby comes.

I had a training to go to shortly after I delivered, got pressured into going. Months later after my manager had his first, he goes to me "don't know how you did that, I wouldn't have"... So act like a dude to tell your team to shove it.

Also, it's not that it's one giant slum, but there are many things there that your body won't be used to that are fine for others that grew up there (like the water...). I lived in Africa and my aunt bought street food that the locals used to eat all the time, and she ended up in the hospital too. So don't be offended D3, but it's a real thing to be concerned about, especially when pregnant.

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I traveled internationally until 30 weeks and domestically until 36. In hindsight, I would have said no. It was too risky if something happened and I was on a plane or not near my doctor. Also I had a really easy pregnancy with no complications. It sets the wrong expectation for other women who may not want to take that risk or have a harder pregnancy. For my second (fingers crossed) I plan to stop traveling a lot earlier

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I’m not one to say no. However, my dad convinced me to tone things down during pregnancy and postpartum with the phrase “what’s the worst that could happen?” I was willing to travel weekly to Boston up to a month before my due date because they had a world class NICU and the baby would be safe. However, I’m not taking the 2 month old baby to a close friends wedding in Bali because if the worst thing happens we wouldn’t be able to get proper medical care. Once I stopped traveling for work, everyone on my team commented how crazy they thought I was for traveling as long as I did. 😉

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You’re right about your doctor

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Did you moms have a very chill Obgyn too? I was worried at first about my weight, I only gained 6 lbs so far at 23 weeks. My pre-pregnancy weight was 106 lbs.

But I stopped worrying after the ultrasound confirmed baby’s measurement is normal.

Thought he might say something about this India trip; heat, Zika, but nothing so far. Anyway, I told my big boss that I’m not going and he’s fine with that. Thanks Moms

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I would probably skip a trip that far away. If something were to happen, early labor, etc, you don't want to be that far from home

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I don’t think you are supposed to be on that long of a flight. I wouldn’t

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I’m actually concerned about the fact that anyone around you thought this was a reasonable request in the first place. Don’t do it, and set some boundaries now before you get further along in your pregnancy, and before you have the baby - you are going to need to say no to a lot of things in the future and your team needs to prepared for it. FYI I was vaccinated for typhoid and took antimalarials and have still contracted both diseases - the risks here are great. Don’t do it.

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@D2, I start to have a feeling that my doctor is too chill. He didn’t say anything at all.. even didn’t raise any concern on the long flight.

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Don’t go. You should never take pregnancy lightly. Moreover if you will be alone at a place far-off from home. While you will be setting a courageous example, it is seriously not worth it. I am an Indian woman and even I wouldn’t taken the risk to going to any far off place at such a critical stage of life. Here, you know people, the places and can work around them. God forbid you end up pre-term, you would be in big hassle medically and legally as well. It is seriously not worth it.

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Is India’s hygiene really that bad even if you stay in 5 star hotel?

I traveled to China at 28 weeks and didn’t think it was a big deal at all 🤷‍♀️

It may all likely turn out to be fine. But why risk it? Do you care so much about this workshop to risk perhaps early delivery without your SO being there? Or your own health because of long flight and high humidity. I was in the Caribbean when I was 6 months pregnant for holiday and my ankle got so swollen due to heat and humidity that I had to spend the entire time inside in air conditioning and sitting down. You never how your body is going to react. So I would not risk it.

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