30, M, Single. I am from Africa and I can’t go a day around family or extended family asking me why I am not married yet. My sexuality has also been questioned due to this. I like to believe this is because of our culture but I’m curious if this is normal? Do Americans experience this too?

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It hits a little later with Americans. Closer to the 35 yr age as opposed to at 30. You are not alone. We all got judgy parents/family

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I agree with VP 1 and GT 1. I was being set up by my fam as soon as I had completed my university. I fought back hard to get them to stop doing this and to let me focus on my career and become independent.

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As soon as you get engaged the same people start asking when you’re going to have kids. I really wish we could move away from these type of questions.

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Why aren’t you married though?

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For Mormons this happens around the age of 22

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^^This, and in other Christian circles too. I am 22 and all but one of my friends from college is either already married or getting married this summer. I get asked all the time why I didn't just marry my ex as I had planned for 2 years, or when I am gonna get a new bf, or if I am worried about having kids later in life. Like geez calm down people. I am extremely over it.

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34 Male single from India but raised in America. It’s a big deal not be married as an Indian. I am getting sick of all of the similar and archaic questions from aunties who grew up 200 years ago and ready to leave my old culture behind.

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D2 - I can totally relate to you. Being single female in late 20s, I have been hearing things like "you find men after you are 30". I agree with your statement that you are ready to leave old culture behind. I am so ready to leave everything behind.

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Sounds like you have a very traditional family. They don’t understand the world in 2021.

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Unfortunately this is very common.

I really think I need therapy to deal with the societal pressure of being single.

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Also very common with asian people!

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Lol my own grandma has been doing this and each time I just refer to the prospects as her new boyfriends 😘

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It can also be a regional thing in the US. I am from NYC, where people tend to wait to get married, but I live in the Midwest where people often get married in their mid 20s. I would say what regardless, you need to push that part of life( social, romantic, etc.) cause public will consume it. I don’t think anybody wants to wake up to the fact that the only thing you have to look forward to is emails, deadlines and utilization.

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Same thing in Northern Ireland. Might be quicker to list the cultures where it doesn't happen

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I’m Asian and my uncle is early 40s and unmarried. Almost every family event is loaded with questions about his dating life.

Sucks and it doesn’t help that he’s the only one in our family that’s single.

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I think Asian culture has a “void age” concept, my parents used to tell random ppl I was 26 when I was in fact 24. They tried to set me up with a dentist on an airplane who was 30, and according to my 24 self that was old as F.

Happens with South Asian family too.

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I'm a 50 yo female and have been with my boyfriend/partner for 13 years, no interest in getting married, it is all good. Screw tradition and what other people think.

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I did not have a hard time meeting someone when I was older. I did online dating and stayed positive about it. I met a few nice guys, a few lemons, and then my current partner.

My parents gently ask from time to time (I'm in my late 30s), but they're asking less now. It's definitely not what my friends from other cultures receive.

There is a cultural aspect to it.

It’s normal. Latinos experience that as well

I’m mid20s F Asian American and I’ve been asked/pestered about this topic since I turned 18 🥲

25 year old white female here. Parents aren’t necessarily pushing, but they are concerned since I don’t have much of a dating history. They’ve tried to set me up a few times and tend to give my number to “nice young men” they meet on vacation. They backed off a bit after their last set up blew up 🤣 they’re mostly worried I’m lonely even though I’ve told them I’m not.

The grandparents are a lot more pushy on this though.

my parents have asked if i was a lesbian (no) but then told me they think “ i’ll be alone forever and that’s ok too” 🥲

i don’t want to be alone forever.

My parents were surprised when my bf asked for permission to marry me. Pretty sure they thought the same thing as well 🤷🏼‍♀️ and I was only in my late 20s

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