30F mid level M&A associate at V5. I honestly think I will have to choose between my work and build a meaningful relationship with a partner. All the interesting guys I meet get tired/bored of dating a girl who works all the time and is constantly sleep deprived. Ladies, am I the only one? Are there guys out there who are dating career driven women?

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Married 35M. Career-driven women are just fine with most guys TBH. Intentionally exhausted women, not so much—because exhausted partners/spouses make for a difficult home life. If you’re “constantly sleep deprived” then that’s a balance issue you need to address for your own health, before you take on a relationship with someone else.

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Yea… was really trying to be understanding also but as a mom with a demanding career I have a hard time empathizing with people who say they can’t balance their life and don’t have time.

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I’d like to think I am one, and that my hubby is perfectly happy with me being one. Let’s make a list of the pros
1. A LOT less stress on him to be the sole breadwinner. We both like being treated well with a just because gift or fancy dinner every now and then, and pricy holidays, knowing it won’t make us “living beyond our means”.
2. He has an experienced thought partner who strategises with him in life. When he faces difficult situations it’s great having a strategist as a partner, rather than someone who can just say “there there honey here’s a hug”.
3. Likelihood of children being smart with two smart parents is higher. 😂

Now on to the challenges. It’s all about how you view these.
1. You have less time together, this isn’t a huge issue if both have busy work lives BUT (especially during WFH days) know how to have light catchup moments through the day. I love working from home with the hubby, brings me back to the group studying days in college. Except now we have a Nespresso machine at home 😂😂
2. For both of you, look at what’s value work versus grunt work. Try to do less of the grunt work that doesn’t propel your career, focus more on the value work that makes you excel. This exercise creates more time, which you can spend together.

Just like to add that we are doing this and raising two young children. It can be done, and other than me being a little too loud on calls for his liking (where then he just puts in the handy AirPods on sound block mode), we are both career driven parents who are quite enjoying the ride.
(Friday nights we pop open a bottle around 5pm 🥳🥳… even if I have to take calls then 8-10pm sometimes 😂😂.. he takes this time to read to the kids! All about enjoying the time we do have ❤️)

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Agree. For reference I’m working usually 60-80 hour weeks, sometimes hitting close to 90, but sometimes dialling down to 40 (on a reaaaaally slow week)

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Yes. I married such a girl. But it’s not working out for other reasons.

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Date an M&A associate at another firm. You'll never see each other but you'll both be super understanding when you need to cancel a date to run a deal.

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We could pull all-nighters together! So romantic!

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No, i’ve had partners break up with me for working too much. I’m approaching my mid 30s and still single, try to prioritize your life - work won’t love you back. I got that advice plenty of times when I was younger and never thought i’d still be single at this age.

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Not currently dating, but would prefer to not date an especially career oriented woman.

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And what do you consider to be a meaningful relationship? As my wife told me, being married to someone you see a few hours a day and potentially not at all for days on end, isn’t a relationship, regardless of the paycheck i bring home.

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M1, to each their own but that’s not a relationship to me at all.

Even tho I’m in the same field as you. I tend to stay away from women in these field Banking, consulting, some lawyers. I find that they tend to be overly masculine and analytical, and I don’t find that attractive.

Not to mention that they wouldn’t have time to date me

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“Strong woman” =masculine traits apparently.

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I’m 30f rising 3rd at a V25. I decided to see what happened if I removed my “lawyer” from dating apps…. The amount of likes/ matches I got after removing was really telling.

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Ok. I’d like a color coded excel by the morning showing the difference in quality of the likes you received before and after. Let’s get moving.


(Sorry, I had to…)

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The short answer is, plenty exist. What do you define as interesting though? Are you looking at guys who are also career ambitious and similarly successful?

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It sounds like ur describing someone whos successful but has hobbies, aka not someone whos working 70 plus hrs a week. I think you are right that men in this group have a lot of options and many would prefer someone similar to them or even who work less than them. With that being said it isnt impossible and I do know of people who have succeeded at finding someome but you just cant be as picky.

I would be perfectly fine dating a career driven woman like you and have already dated one in the past. I find it incredible sexy in a woman who has the desire to succeed in life.

Try and find a balance between the two.

I am married to a career driven woman. Her career is being a mother to our two kids and making our house a home. She is sexy as hell! Can’t imagine any man not being into a career driven woman.

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