31 yo and I’ve been with my boyfriend for ~4 years now. We are deeply in love but the biggest thorn has always been our expectations for children. He wants children at some point of his life and I don’t want any (nor with adoption). I’ve been upfront about my expectations but it finally got to the point when my BF starting to think seriously about kids. There is no middle ground when it comes to this, one of us has to compromise or we just have to break up. Just feeling sad and wanna share :(

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I'm sorry, that is a hard situation. Potentially useful to consider the "why" behind what each of you feels on this matter and you both find a way to satisfy the deeper reason? Potentially helpful to do couples therapy.

Long term, makes sense to do what you think is right for you. No point in building a relationship on resentment.

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