33 F. All of my friends are having babies. I get really lonely when they aren’t available because they are either tired from child rearing or are actively rearing their children. Happens every weekend, lots of evenings. On top of it, I feel outside of female work groups because I don’t have kids and just can’t talk about the things they talk about. I don’t know how to make this feeling go away, but being exhausted and putting my career on the line for a kid is not the answer. Anyone else?

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I joined my neighborhood nextdoor and there is a women's group there. I posted about looking for other child free women and actually found a few that I'm connecting with.

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Good advice!!! Thanks! I definitely feel like I need to expand my friend group.

Yes!! I am 33F too and have a small circle of good female friends. 2 of them had babies during the pandemic and 1 more is pregnant. Suddenly I feel like I have no one to hang out with and if I text them I get a very limited response. I am very happy for them because they are happy and I love seeing their kids but I can’t help but ‘mourn’ the friendship we had

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Right. Unfortunately, I think my friends’ kids are ugly and don’t like hanging. So. Yep.

Thanks for commiserating with me, though. ❤️

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Yes I’m feeling this hard right now. Any time I am able to spend time with my best friend she is nearly incapable of holding a conversation or dedicating even a fraction of her attention away from her 2 year old. The day turns into talking to the child, about the child, playing with the child, taking pictures of the child…I’m sad at how our relationship has changed and really sad to see how this other identity of my friend has taken over the identity of the person I love.

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No advice, but I’m in the same position. Also 33F, my husband (34M) and I are basically the only ones in our friend group that don’t have or want like kids. Usually we’re okay hanging out with our friends and their kids (especially during the pandemic-everything is locked down where we live still, so we can only go to each others’s houses), but sometimes we just want to hang with no kids, let loose, not watch our mouths or how much we’re drinking. I definitely feel a barrier because there’s things we don’t connect on like we used to and we have different priorities.

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I am child-free. My tip is to find friends slightly older. Also, have you tried meetup?

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Thank you! Appreciate the suggestion!

33F and just got my IUD replaced 🙌🏼🙌🏼
May have been said but WE should all be friends ❤️

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Where do you live? Maybe move to a bigger city if that’s an option? I’m in a big city I’m the same age group but only 10% of the people I know have kids.

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