37 weeks pregnant, and feeling anxious about having working mom friends while out on leave. Mom support groups here dominated by non-working “yoga moms” (I don’t say this in derogatory manner)

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I’m 11 weeks PP and actually haven’t had the time / desire to go out and meet the mom group yet - between the first few weeks being too nuts, risk of catching some disease before the 2 month vaccines (live in a busy and dirty city), then you’re trying to build a good nap schedule, then the husband gets busy at work, parents leave and all of a sudden you don’t have time... and it’s almost time to go back to work. So basically - don’t sweat it, you might not need it, especially if you’re an introvert and don’t mind hanging by yourself. FaceTime / chats with virtual friends (E.g. pick on your normal friends in different time zones) might be just good enough!

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oh man. sorry things are tough. I really loved getting out of the house and meeting new people. lots of long walks or just sitting in the park. I hate being cooped up inside.

I just joined yoga and other groups for new moms. a percentage will be those going back and some will be stay at home. my biggest challenge was that I took 6 months and some of my friends went back at 3, so had to get a new mom gang.

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Friend if mine in Houston joined a mommy group. She mentioned that in her area, they've split into two groups. Working mommy group. And SAHM group. And the two can not overlap. She wasn't working for years due to visa issues before but got her first job when baby was 1 and was required to move groups even though all her friends were in the other.

Try finding a working mommy group instead.

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Don't know anymore, this conversation was over 4 years ago at a party with my husband's friend's wife.

Damn. Where are you located? I’m in Chicago and will have to find one later this year once the baby comes

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I’m in Chicago too and found the baby classes I found on pearachute an awesome way to meet other moms.

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Peanut! Lots of working moms there

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I just heard about it but was turned off by the matching feature. You’ve had a good experience?

I tried some mommy groups and could not even. I needed more real talk and less...crafting. I felt like I was on an alien planet in these groups. I just didn’t have the energy to do the work of finding that group. Leave went by fast and soon I was back at work and I was fine. I met my best mom support through day care— lots of other working parents. We are still tight to this day!

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I felt this way about some of the moms I met on leave. but I also haven't met any parents through daycare because my husband does pickup and drop off the vast majority of the time.
honestly I'm just waiting till she's school age, maybe I'll meet some mom friends then.
but it's not like my husband worries about not having "dad friends" so I really wouldn't sweat it.

Find baby & me classes on pearachute and so a bunch of dropins. It’s like classpass for kid activities. I met other moms this way and have hit it off with a few. We now meet for regular moms nights.

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What city are you in? I was actually pleasantly surprised by the new mom groups in my neighborhood in Boston. Given there is a decent SAHM scene around us, I thought I’d have nothing in common with the moms I met. However I found a lot of “new moms” were a different crowd from the SAHM moms to older kids who we see around - so many of them were on mat leave too, so we were going through a lot of similar things . They weren’t all consultants obviously (teachers/school administrators, lawyers, accountants, social workers, nurses, etc). Most could still very much relate to the new experience of being home with a baby all day vs at work with adults and intellectual stimulation, or how to manage the logistics of going back to work. I think this is likely to be the case if you live in an urban center where dual income households are increasingly common. I can imagine suburbs may be more of a mixed bag

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They just have different priorities / interests than I do. Anybody find good support groups specifically for working moms? (Esp those in intense career paths?)

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