38 with two children born before I was 35. Considering one more but worried about the risks. Anyone had another child later and how did it work out?

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Had my first at 38 and second at 40. Easy pregnancies, no issues with the kids.

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Having my first this week, am 38

The pregnancy has been thankfully pretty chill

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Congrats!!!!!

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I’m planning to have a 3rd at 43. That’s what prenatal testing is for. We will do all the tests.

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Amnios are identified as risky but when you ask about the actual study, the n is small and the % is actually .5%, they round up for just…people

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1st @ 41, 2nd @ 43, 3rd @45.- all healthy & baby is 9 months now & life is pretty fun & chaotic at the same time.

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That’s awesome!!!!

39 for my first and 42 for my second. no problems whatsoever and now at 55 do they ever keep me young. 💜💜

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I think 44 is when scientifically the chances of getting pregnant really plummet.

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Wow my husband and I just had a conversation at dinner about this. Glad I’m not the only crazy person dreaming of a third while already drowning with two

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Right there with you! Pregnant with my third, with two littles keeping me on my toes daily

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Not me, but I know 3 people who had multiple kids each between the ages of 37-40 (all in the last 5 years). All kids are happy and healthy. The only negative thing I heard from the parents is they wish they had the energy they did when they were 30, lol.

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I had my first two (sons) in my early 30s. I thought we were done, but my husband kept asking for a daughter, and I wasn’t sure anymore that we were done. Long story short, I miscarried twice in my late 30s but got my baby girl 4 months before turning 41! Perfectly healthy, smart, and a total momma’s girl 🥰

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D2, I’m so sorry! The first miscarriage hit me hard - one of those things that you don’t think would happen to you after 2 uneventful pregnancies. The second time went like the first one, and I kind of already knew, I think, before it was medically confirmed? So it wasn’t as emotionally difficult. Then I just let go, not as in giving up and being depressed or anything, but just decided what’s going to happen was going to happen. Even after finding out I was pregnant again, I just went about my life - worked and took care of my sons. This might sound crazy, and I’m not advising anyone to do the same, but I waited until like 9 weeks to even see a doctor. I figured, what is even the point if I’m going to miscarry again? And if not, by that point, I would definitely hear the heartbeat, and there wouldn’t be any doubt about viability. Hearing her heartbeat at that first appointment did make me emotional! I went on an actual roller coaster and fell off a bicycle during the early months too. I guess she was determined to stick around! Again, not a doctor obviously, just sharing my experience. I hope you get your rainbow baby too 🌈

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had my third at 40. no issues and did all of the testing.

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I’m 40 pregnant with my 2nd. Had my first at 38. It totally depends on your health; my first pregnancy was smooth — until the last week when I was induced and spent a little extra time in the hospital.

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Same… 38 and have been considering a 3rd since last year but it hasn’t happened.

My sister has a 4th at 39(pandemic baby, lol), she’s a perfect lil ball of sunshine. So I’m hopeful

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2 kids, had both after age 35. Healthy pregnancies and normal births

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My mom had my youngest sister at 42, perfectly healthy, saucy, audacious, hilarious cutie pie. She was technically higher risk for DS.

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Had mine at 34,36 and 39. Healthy and happy.

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This post gives me so much hope! I had my first at 36, and being labeled as geriatric mom made me think this is it. I can either have another one within a year, or we are a family of 3 forever. But reading successful stories of moms who had successful and healthy pregnancies later as well is giving me so much hope! Thank you all.

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Ok is so funny. I was 42/43 and knew of that label (or ama. Advanced maternal age) and never heard it or saw it….again I’m in hcol city so older moms common

My first/only born at 43. MY closest friends were 40-46.9 when babies born (we were all friends though our 30s…the year we turned 40 there were 7 weddings!”

We all had very normal pregnancies…no issues….other than getting pregnant which involved various levels of help for probably half….and most have only one as time ran out….all did testing….all are healthy happy kids now!

Also. The dads. Range from same age to ten years older. :). We are in a hcol city so age not such an issue…It’s all good!

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Oops. Oldest mom was 45.9…not quite 46.

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Amazing to hear about so many healthy babies and pregnancies! How did it work out for mom’s health and postpartum recovery though? I’m in a similar thought process to OP but worried I won’t “snap back” as well as I did with the first two.

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Post partum recovery was fine for me with both kids (recovered physically much faster after #2 actually but that also might be because he basically shot out of me/super fast labor). Weight loss was definitely slower to recover with #2.

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Pregnant with my first at 38. Had two prior miscarriages - one at 36 (blighted ovum) and one at 37 (unexplained loss at 15 weeks - no genetic issues revealed through CVS or autopsy).

I do get more frequent ultrasounds because of the unexplained loss, but I love that I get to see her more often. Everything is smooth sailing and an easy pregnancy so far - I didn’t even get nausea this time and have only gained 3 lbs as of 18 weeks (though belly and boobs are HUGE).

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I’m 38 with a 6 and 1.5 year old. I’d love one more but my husband doesn’t. By the time he comes around (if he ever does) I’ll probably be 40.

Maybe the feeling of always wanting one more never goes away.

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Had my daughter at 41. No complications, no problems. She is off to college. Life is short. Good luck on healthy baby #3

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