4 sessions in with a therapist and trying to assess effectiveness. Seems like she spends the hour gathering information from me but never really going deeper to understand root causes of my behaviors. Almost like she is fishing at times to find something to talk about.

Is this common? Do I need to stick it out longer to realize benefits?

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Go with your gut. If you think she’s ineffective then cut her loose. There are too many therapists to be stuck with one that doesn’t work for you

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Yeah you can't go in for 2 1hr sessions and then they're like ok a, b, c are your problem do x, y, z instead. It's work, it takes a while.

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Have you expressed this to your therapist? Many patients take offense at being “diagnosed” too early so therapists tend to walk a fine line.

She is there to guide you, but you can refocus the convo too.

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I second this- I got more out of therapy when I started being more open/vocal about my relationship with my therapist and how I felt about him. Telling him when I felt frustrated, when I felt like I wasn’t getting enough, etc. Before you give up on this therapist, you should at least try to get more. If they don’t respond in a way that feels productive, you can move on to a better fit, but they can’t help if you don’t communicate what you need.

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Four sessions is not very many. It takes time.

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Second that. It took me a few months to get comfortable with my therapist (talking emotions rather than "root causes"). He's awesome

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Be patient. It takes time. They have to get to know you before they can just jump right in.

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I’d give it a bit more time, they often need to understand you to get to the root of your problems. I’m a guy and I’ve found male therapists to be more effective for me because they’re quicker at understanding how I think. If there’s something about you that’s gonna take her longer to figure you out, that’ll cause the drawn out fishing process.

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After my first session (yrs ago), I felt heard, understood, was given homework and a book to read that was specific to what I needed at the time. Good therapists and the right fit are hard to find. If you don’t feel you’re getting value after 4 sessions, I think it’s worth finding a better fit for you.

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Friends - fantastic feedback. Thank you!

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