5 month baby, Sending him to daycare ( cleared by pediatrician) starting July. Our first child, went for orientation today and really struggling mentally about having someone unknown take care of our child. Feel so guilty, don’t have other options with both of us WFH right now.

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These are normal feelings mama! And you will sob at the first dropoff. It gets better. You will build rapport with the teachers and you will get comfortable over time. Your baby will be happy.

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It gets better! Does the facility utilize a parent communication app? If so, make sure to ask them to post pictures throughout the day. Baby will be better off long-term learning to socialize. You'll love the cute art projects that get sent home! Cry away - it's normal!

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Yes they do. They do report at end of day too. I’ll definitely ask then that. Thanks for the tip

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When we first sent our baby to daycare I felt the same. It turned out to be amazing for baby and us. My kid just finished 5th grade and is still best friends with the babies (kids) from daycare. We’ve built friendships with the other parents. The skills the babies learn from the socialization and structure is so important. I know not all daycare centers are created equal, but if you have a good one, try and let the guilt go.

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Try to find a nanny. 5 months is too young for day care.

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My baby was supposed to go to daycare at 6 mo. but I lost it after taking the orientation tour. Being a first time mom I just couldn’t handle the idea that she was not going to get 1:1 attention and would have to change her current routine. Then COVID happened so we decided to get a nanny. Yes it’s a huge financial hit ($3500/month) but it’s only for the short term. It’s not like we are going to take any exotic vacations or buying anything nice for the next year or so....

It was super tough for me, too, but as others say- it does get better. One thing that worked for me was to have my husband do drop off. He did not struggle with it as much as me so he dropped our son off at day care and I started work early and made an effort to pick our son up by 5pm. Not actually doing the drop off made it a bit easier on me emotionally 😀

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Agree with this! Her first day...my husband and I both did drop off and that was really awesome! It was nice to both be there and see her classroom and meet her teachers

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It is super difficult at first. However, our daycare teachers became part of our village. They care so much for the children at our school and her teachers from the nursery get so excited to see her as she grows. We’re keeping our daughter home right now since I’m pregnant out of an abundance of caution and frankly part of me is sad for her to miss out in the experience. I’ll cherish the time together but daycare really was good for her learning and socialization. Hang in there!

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Stay strong OP. Try to see if you can afford a nanny or sharing a nanny with another couple nearby as another option instead of daycare.

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It will be okay mama!! I didn’t sleep the night before we sent my daughter to daycare. But the first few months are hard. She was also sick with a few colds, stomach flu, pneumonia twice and pink eye a few times...

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How are you feeling about the COVID situation? Do you feel comfortable with the daycare? My maternity leave is ending soon and having hard time deciding daycare or keeping her at home longer

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Agreed - they are cleaning 2-3 times a day, temp check for teachers and kids every 3 hours, they all wear masks, no parents allowed in for drop off or pick up with temp checks. They’re really trying hard, also there aren’t many kids there so it’s actually safe. Check with your pediatrician to help ease your thoughts.

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Full day daycare is a big adjustment. If you’re not comfortable with it, try 1/2 day daycare and get a nanny to come to your home half days. It’s what I did with me first (who thrives tremendously under this scenario) and plan to do with my 2nd (7 months) when he turns 2. During the entire stay-at-home, our nanny has been coming to care for both boys P/T. Point is, create options that work for you guys and make you comfortable easing in to.

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I was in the same spot as you. Having the baby at home with my husband and I trying to work was so mentally hard for me. Little guy went to daycare and it helped so much!! For us, and him. He won’t even take a bottle and I was ready to stop breastfeeding so bad. Well he takes it now thanks to daycare. Also I feel the interaction helps him see there are other people in the world and not just mom and dad. Oh and he makes friends with the other babies and plays with them!

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Thank you everyone .

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