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A coworker this week told me I look 13. I know I have a baby face but that’s so rude! I should have told her she looked 50 (she’s not 50)

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Saying you look young is a compliment, even if not ideal. Saying you look 13 is rude. Thirteen year olds are literal children, and we work in an industry where being young can easily work against you and be conflated with being inexperienced or immature. Stop telling people to not be offended by being told they look like a child.

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I’m 42 and recently got carded… legit carded, not the pity card. My boyfriend ordered a drink first and she did not card him, but proceeded to card me when I ordered mine. She looks at my ID and tells me I look great for my age. Made me feel awesome… until she followed that up with saying I’m a year younger than her mom 😑.

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It is actually rude especially in the work place. Anyone with business maturity should know not to make comments on coworkers’ looks, age, etc. You do not have to accept it not take it as a compliment, your feelings are valid. Next time someone says something inappropriate, pause and reflect how you feel. You can say “I don’t think that’s appropriate” or “Please don’t comment on my looks or age”. At that point, a mature person with any self awareness should respond “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to offend you.” Don’t let them gaslight you either.

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Why would you want to be told that? Maybe 22 would be flattering 13 is a child.

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Take it as a compliment! I’m in my 30s and someone asked me where my parents were (for Costco samples they thought I was a kid) 😅 My immediate response was to be rude because I was offended but hey it could be worse

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Uhhh. Just take the compliment??

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Lmao what it is not a compliment for an adult woman to be called a 13 year old they're literally saying she looks like a child 😂😂😂😂 low key implying they don't take her as seriously. Would you want your bouncer saying you look 13? It'd be different if she was 50 and people said she looked 30, I think it's more reasonable to take that as a compliment.

Jeez it's a compliment. 🙄

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Yeah generally compliments should not offend the receiver. If you truly meant it as a compliment, then you shouldn’t be offended by them asking you to phrase it in a way that the receiver can appreciate 🙂

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It’s annoying in the workplace and makes me feel like I’m not being treated like a true peer. Yes I’m 24 Karen and you reminding everyone of that and calling me a baby is more of a reflection of you than me. I think older people get indignant and insecure when a younger person is at or above their level of authority/expertise in the workplace and try to make the younger person feel inferior.

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Example: a male colleague in my starting class, at the same level as me, and no previous relevant work experience was about 10 years older than me and was the absolute worst to work with because he acted like his age made him superior and constantly called out others for their youth.

Hm i would love it if s.o says that to me

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Someone..not significant other

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Those comments bothered me in my twenties. Now I live for them. This just means you'll look great in your 50s and 60s. Embrace it!

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I saw what i thought was a line of high school kids trying to get into a bar the other night only to learn that’s what 25 looks like now. My brain assumes anyone more than 5 years younger than me is a teenager. So I do not comment on people’s age.

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This happened to me often in my 20s. I have a lot of freckles and was frequently told things like “oh you look just like my niece!” And then shown a photo of a preteen girl who also has freckles. It was annoying so I feel for you

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I’m almost 25 and yes have a baby face but someone at the gym asked what year of high school I’m in…

As someone who has always been mistaken for a younger age I get you! Now in my mid twenties I take it as a compliment but does depend on what age they guess. 13 is a bit ridiculous to assume versus a high school age

Not me just being told I am young after getting carded…I’m 26

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