A friend asked me and my husband to take out her SO for his birthday. Is it an awkward ask or am I being difficult?

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Sounds like she’s relying on you as a friend to be there for someone she loves because she can’t be with him on that day and doesn’t want him to be alone. Not an awkward ask at all. She seems like a kind person.

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Not bitchy at all. If she wants to date someone who isn’t enough of an adult to make his own plans that’s one thing but no reason to make you do all the work on his behalf.

Without her?

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I’d feel pretty awkward about this. Just because you’re friends with someone doesn’t mean you automatically like/want to hang out alone with their SO, and I’d think the SO would want to spend his birthday on his terms? It almost seems like a babysitting request lol

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I think this sounds very kind and also something that someone would do who is part of, or wants to form, a mutually supportive group of friends who are there for each other. This honestly sounds like a beautiful thing and I would hope to be able to be this type of friend to someone, and feel that I had this type of friend.

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I’ve offered a sushi night.

She’s going out of town. So yes, without her.

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That’s super weird. I would decline.

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It’s so strangely infantilizing

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Are you all friends with each other? I have some friends that we’re couple friends with, so this wouldn’t be weird. But if it’s a girlfriend of mine and I/my husband isn’t friends with her SO, it would feel super awkward for us

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If anything I think this thread has been fascinating for how differently people can view things. There seem to be a significant number of people who feel equally strongly that this is either completely weird or completely lovely.

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Maybe he doesn’t have a lot of friends and she’s trying to get you guys closer? Would be weird if without her, but with her I see nothing wrong with it

Relax and have a good time.

But why? I don’t get why she has to take her friend’s significant other out for his birthday. Am I missing something?

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