A friend of mine told me I should have Narcan on hand for my boyfriend who does coke sometimes. I'm firmly against it. He knows I hate when he does it and I don't want the emotional weight of carrying it around in my purse. Like, if he's going to do that, he should carry his own damn Narcan. Am the asshole? She thinks I'm being cruel since it can be lifesaving and you can get it for free.

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Yes, it is cruel of you - assuming that you want to keep dating him.

Which makes me wonder why you’d want to keep dating him, since you don’t seem to care what happens to him if something untoward transpires.

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I do care. The best way to not get fentanyl spiked cocaine is to not do cocaine. So obviously I want him to be safe.

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Am I missing something…? I get that you don’t want your partner to do cocaine and honestly I wouldn’t date a coke user myself. But, WHEN he eventually gets a bad batch of coke (which is becoming SUPER common thanks to fent) and he literally dies in front of you, wouldn’t you wish you had narcan on you??

I think you’re viewing the narcan as supporting his drug habit. I think you should consider breaking up with him or forcing an intervention, but the narcan is to save lives in the case of WHEN not IF he gets a bad batch.

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Wanted to add: Last night a young woman at my sister’s college died of a cocaine overdose. This is incredibly sad, and illustrates how serious this drug is. Death could happen to any user at any time.

Drugs your not comfortable with sounds like a deal breaker to me.

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You guys aren't compatible due to his drug habit. Breakup

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Did he tell you he wouldn’t carry it?

I couldn’t date a heavy drug user but ultimately you should do what’s comfortable for you. If you’re fine dating a coke user and accepting the risk of OD’ing, then that’s what works for you. I think the risk is on the user.

I think if you have some Narcan in the house, that's OK (but ultimately up to you and your boundaries), but I understand that you don't want to carry it with you to a bar/party.

I would also like to know what "sometimes" means here. My bf does it probably 2-3 times a year with some close buddies. But is this something that is happening more and more frequently? Such as- it used to be twice a year, and now it's every other month? If your bf knows that it bothers you, why does he continue to do it?

Make it a point not to be around when he does it - then he doesn’t need to worry if you have it or not.

If you don’t want to carry don’t carry - same applies to narcan as applies to guns, don’t carry one unless you are both willing and able to use it when/if needed. When you put it in that context people tend to understand more.

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