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Rising Star
If you don’t feel comfortable going, don’t go. It seems like the couple is very reasonable and understanding of the current situation. As long as you communicate with them, I don’t see a problem.
Enthusiast
That seems safe but I probably wouldn’t go. If they are understanding about it - then don’t go and send a gift!
Chief
It’s a personal choice. I was in my friends’ wedding last weekend but am quarantining myself now. They already had so many changes they had to make I personally wanted to be there to support them (and I was in the wedding). If it had been someone I was less close to I would have passed.
Make the decision you feel good about, if you’re going to be super stressed and filled with anxiety about passing the virus to your folks, it’s not worth going.
It sucks to be in this position to have to choose. Hang in there
I like this approach, that they’re requiring masks, massively reduced number of people, small tables. They also seem reasonable and safety conscious. I think it speaks highly of you that they want you at their wedding for such a small number :)
Could you ask to be seated with specific people you trust? I’m sure you would be anyway but might help?
Can you quarantine safely afterwards? Perhaps an AirBnB or if your parents house has any separation?
Also important- how do they feel about you going? Since you’re living with them, certainly want their sign off.
Happy to help! Good luck OP! I think with proper precautions you can stay safe and still celebrate your friends. But if you decide not to go, that’s what is best for you too!
If it’s important for you to attend but you are worried - maybe see if there’s somewhere else you can stay for two weeks afterward?
Yeah I thought about this too but don't think there's any alternatives except paying for a two week hotel stay. 😞 It makes me sad not to be able to go and support them, but they understand. I'll prob get a gift as someone suggested. Thanks for this suggestion! It was helpful to consider all options.
Enthusiast
If I had older parents at home I wouldn’t go - just wouldn’t want to risk it. But I also lost my mom a few years ago, so I’m more risk averse when it comes to that, than the general population
Gotta go
Rising Star
Are you traveling for this event or are you local? If local, you could actually just go for the ceremony, keep your mask on, stay 6 feet away from others, and then go home. Taking your mask off while eating and talking with others who have masks off is the main risk for getting infected.
It's about 1-2 hours drive away. Not exactly local but not something I need to hop on a plane for.
Conversation Starter
Are people still holed up in their homes?
Pro
If you’re living with your parents right now, that definitely changes things. Unless you can afford to quarantine yourself after the wedding and away from them?
Question to ask yourself - if you bring it home to your parents after the wedding, will you be able to forgive yourself? It’s one thing if you take all necessary precautions, minimize risk, and your household still comes down with it. It’s another when you take knowing risk. It’s totally your call on your comfort level there. It sounds like they are taking a lot of precautions too, which is nice of them.
Enthusiast
Just a tip there a tons of discussions like this on r/weddingplanning and r/weddingshaming on Reddit that may be helpful