A good friend is having a babyshower on saturday. A few people urged to cancel but they’re keeping it and say will do it with whoever joins. I feel a lot of pressure to go...

Not to be crass, but no f’ing way I would go if I were you. Send a nice gift and offer to video chat with her sometime.

Cancel.

Since she is pregnant, she is by default immunocompromised. Covid has in some Instances led to premature birth. She should stay away from people more than anyone else

I’m currently pregnant and have canceled the in person shower. Instead, my MIL and SIL are hosting a virtual shower. You can always get a gift off her registry and have it mailed directly to her house.

Send the gift. Do something virtual. Then gift them the time after baby arrives to help 1:1

...as they joined mine a few months ago. A few people say they’re joining if it’s on. I hate being in this position. Want to say I’m going, a part of me says it’ll be ok. A part of me says this is soo wrong especially with my baby. What would you do?

Don’t go. It’s the right thing to do. Fully support

No- you just had a baby. You should be more cautious than people without kids

Anyone who is going to get upset about you not attending given the circumstances should quickly get over it! Sending a nice(r) gift with your apologies is more than enough. For my baby shower under normal circumstances, I just wanted people to know they were invited and loved but didn’t blink if they canceled!

Thanks everyone! I hate being put in this situation, they should’ve canceled. There are a few more days maybe they’ll cancel but in any case I’m not going. Your messages really helped me feel better about this.

A close friend out of ours cancelled their wedding. Don’t go!

Everyone else I know has cancelled get togethers.

Do what you feel comfy w. If you’re ok going, go and just sit far from people. If you’re not comfortable, ask if she will have s remote option (ie hangouts on in then background)

Send them a gift and a nice card, but don’t feel you need to go. I wouldn’t go.

Don’t go.