A guy you’ve been seeing for 4 months asks for money (contribution towards International ticket) …he’s not unemployed or anything. How would you interpret this? Gave me the ick!

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Abosolutely dump him with no regrets. He seems to have no shame and he was fine for you to visit and not contribute to your ticket. He seems like a man child who can’t save or does not prioritize you, both are bad things in a partner. Don’t even think twice. This guy seems to be a liability, not an asset.

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Nah, it would be one thing if you shared costs to visit each other generally. If you’ve already paid to visit him, no go - it’s his turn. And the talk about marriage combined finances and money etc is huge red flags. Bye!

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“What? No”. You could also replace “No” with “Absolutely not” - just a matter of preference there.

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🤦🏻‍♀️ please dump him

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Thinking of it 😂😂😂

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I would run for the hills….

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Without shoes 😂😂😂

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Need more context. Why is he asking for money? Is this under the condition that he pays you back? Is this a trip you're taking with him? Need a lot more info.

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Yes after I commented I understood the context. If he’s not paying half when you go over, it’s unreasonable he is asking you to do so. Run!

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Men have no shame 😂 its giving broke

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🚩🚩🚩

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My friend got scammed & cat-fished just like that. But she also only spoke to him on text messages and decided to send him money 🤧 they spoke for 2 months before all this.

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He’s using you. He wants to come see “you” but wants you to sponsor him…tell him when he can afford a trip, he can talk to you, until then it sounds Like he’s. Waste of time. Raise your standards above him

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Are you traveling together? Are you 4-months-but-spending-every-waking-moment-together-and-talking-about-marriage?

If not yes to both then ew

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He doesn’t 😬🤣

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That would be a no for me.
Out of curiousty, how much did he ask for? 👀

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He didn’t state a specific amount basically will be based on how much it costs

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No. That is all.

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Do you all normally see each other in the same country? Are you separated by different countries for a specific reason right now?

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OP, respectfully, I’d take a step back and see if this is really a viable relationship. You’ve been chatting for 4 months, have seen each other in person once, and now he’s asking for you to subsidize his plane ticket so you can see him for the second time. He’s repeatedly talked about having money issues. The lift required to sustain this relationship is significant. Why are you trying so hard to make this work?

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Say no

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Very much ick and he’s giving that money to his family or wife overseas. 😕

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There are credit cards for a reason. No need to mooch off you especially if he won’t pay you back. Move on my friend!

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Has he paid for you to come visit before?

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Hmmmm yeaaaaaa no. He needs to learn to save his money

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Just being devils advocate to most other commenters here: if the tickets is not a big amount in your day to day budget and you want to see him, what wrong with that?
You dont have to be planning your wedding just yet.
You say you like him, the D is great and a ticket UK-US (making assumptions here) is not a lot on a US consulting salary.
If the genders were reversed, paying for the ticket would be a widely accepted thing🤷‍♀️

Just wanted to throw in a different perspective 😊 I feel like you have made up your mind and I fully agree with most people here, I could never be with with someone not willing to meet me me in the middle. All the power to you OP!

Go with your gut.

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