A number of my friends never invite me to things they go to or host - but almost always hang out when I reach out. This is after I've made clear that I want to meet new people and make new friends, or said "that sounds like fun, let me know if you ever do something like that again!"

Idk how to bring this up without sounding like I'm inviting myself or starting a conflict. I'm just tired of always being the one reaching out or throwing fun events but never being invited.

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I've been there OP
I realize these friends are just not the real ones and don't appreciate you. You deserve friends who reciprocate, especially when you give openings for them.
These types of people just suck, basically are using you out of convenience 😖

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They're not really your friends, just people you know. Invest in the people who treat you like a friend - quality matters more than quantity.

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You can't force people to be your friends. If you have made it clear you want to be included and they still don't... Move on. Meet new people and do other things. Never ever be in any relationship (friend, family, partner) in which you have to constantly ask to be included

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This!!

Keep reaching out, go to events and make some new friends while you’re there. Look for someone who looks like they don’t know anyone either, ie open to meeting people vs in a clique. Sorry you are dealing with this, happens all the time. Not about you, you’re doing all the right things.

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