A recently promoted manager, I constantly worry if I am performing like a manager. This anxiety doesn’t let me focus on work and I end up staying silent or lost. I was a stellar senior, but this...

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Sounds like imposter syndrome. Lots of people experience this after a promotion, so you’re not alone. However, remember that they would NOT have promoted you if you weren’t already performing at the Manager level. Allow yourself to give yourself some slack, too. New role, new responsibilities. You’ll learn more as you go. No one expects you to have all the answers on Day 1. You got this!

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Care less about what other people think. In 50 years, most of us will be dead and not care. Put things in that perspective and your performance and productivity will improve.

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I'd also like would remind yourself of all the challenges you've overcame in the past. It reiforces how much of a total boss you are. Lol

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OP - I have felt this way most of my career, I constantly feel like I am the dumbest person in the room. A few things that have helped me - find a mentor who believes in you and have regular touch points. You don't have to tell them how you feel, just seek advice/feedback regularly. I found my mentors confidence in me very encouraging. Secondly try and invest time in self improvement. Somehow the time I spend in developing myself gives me a lot more confidence.

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Thanks everyone for the advice. I have gotten into a self critical habit. I think the team sees me as someone incompetent who rose through the ranks by chance. Because of this anxiety, I have become submissive and performing worse than a staff. A constant track of my failures keeps playing at the back of my head.

Will try to remind myself as you all suggested, about how small this may be. Thanks again everyone!

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I told my manager my insecurities and he was like relax but I can’t relax... for example, I saw him closing the door and on the phone with the partner. When he immediately saw me he was like “ she is here she is here.....”

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Without knowing anything about the scenario - I’d guess that you’re being much more critical of yourself than anyone else is being. Most people I know have some level of self doubt and question if they belong in their role. (Myself included)

With everybody worrying about themselves, I doubt they have time focus on what you are/aren’t doing.

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Most managers at b4s aren’t pulling rabbits out of their hats. They’re barely doing more than a Sr and sometimes they do less. You’ll be fine.

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