About to break up with significant other. We’ve been together for 4 years, have had a lot of fun and have a great dog. She said something last week that I can’t get over and it’s obviously time to

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This baffles me only because I can’t understand what she would say to give up a relationship after 4 yrs. What did she say? Don’t feel obligated to tell me. But if imagined a future with this girl like marrying and you go thrown off by a few sentences you need to stop and evaluate yourself. Marriage is hard; relationships are hard- you don’t walk away without trying to resolve the issue or understand the complexity of sentence and it’s effect on you

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Intimacy related. See response below. I approached the convo from the vantage point of “what can we do to fix this?” Her POV was more “this is how I am, you need to decide if it’s okay with you”

Also you’re 27.... you’re young. A guy I’m seeing is 30 and just broke up with his gf of 3 yrs soo

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go our separate ways. It’ll be very civil. We care about eachother a lot and will always love eachother. I’m an attractive guy, 27 years old but feel like I’ll never find another person. Any advice for getting through this?

What did she say?

Any time there’s sexual intimacy issues in a relationship, I’m curious about the underlying emotional aspect. Especially for the partner who started off with a certain level of sexual intimacy and dropped off. Good luck with everything OP. Relationships are a complex thing.

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