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Actual, genuine advice requested - no trolls please. Client is insisting coming back to my hotel room. I want to keep things professional and have a gf. After a drunken dinner: advice please?

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@OP I've been thinking about your situation all morning... I think you did the right thing by getting yourself another room. But what if she didn't pass out and was still being very pushy? That's where things could have gotten much worse. I think you absolutely need to tell your manager so there is transparency in the situation and it doesn't come back to bite you in the ass in the future and if there are any future questions regarding the situation, they can speak with your manager.

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Just piping in to help drown out the BS advice on the thread. You did just about the best thing you could have (agreed with having better been resolved at the bar), but you definitely want to inform your project manager, or if nothing else.... call HR? at least have them log or record your stance on the situation in case it ever comes up. I'm only saying that if you really don't want to talk to your engagement director/partner... which again, I think you should.

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Client service takes many forms.

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No. just no.

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Wtf is wrong with people saying it's ok to cheat on his gf?!

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And how the hell are you posting on Fishbowl in the middle of this?!

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Bathroom then ghost - then never discuss again

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I got her a 6:30 wake up call and I'm gonna go back up at 7. The hotel staff said that this happens kind of often and they have an "emergency rate" reserved for this kind of thing. Just an FYI to you guys. I think I should've been more assertive at the bar that this couldn't happen, but ultimately, I'm happy with how I handled it at the end

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Honestly you might want to go ahead and do it, it could really help your career. Your gf isn't there, and turning her down is only going to create problems for you.

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Extremely drunk = not a chance in hell. This cannot end well. Grow a backbone and remove yourself from the situation.

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Update: she's passed out in the bed and I'm booking myself another room. Not worth the risks you guys laid out for me. I appreciate the help and guidance, it helped me think my options through. I figure if anyone brings this up, I'll just be honest with them. I think this is the most highly defendable decision

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Say it's late and you are exhausted and you're going straight to sleep. Don't allow negotiation. Just say your goodbyes and keep moving.

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Fuck off A1. She keeps laughing when I tell her she needs to go

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@OP nah nah nah - TELL YOUR PROJECT MANAGER / MD. Do not let this bite you later.

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You guys are a rabid pack of wolves. Woke up, went up to my room, and called housekeeping to make sure my linens were changed today. Things seem fine with the client- she's using the "I don't remember a thing" line. I don't have any ill will toward her, I think the embarrassment is bad enough. I'm debating whether or not to escalate internally, but again, I don't want this to become a circus.

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Uh... Don't?

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She hot?

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Women do not respond well to being turned down. Go ahead and get it over with. Afterwards just tell her you were drunk and it was a one time thing. It'll help you a lot during reviews.

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This is actually terrifying. Can I expense another room for tonight?

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No if you value your integrity and your relationship.

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Also, think of the shit storm you could get into if she actually feels like you took advantage of her the next day. Bye bye career

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Tell your manager - I am a female and had a client do a similar thing to me (though I successfully shut it down before he got to my room), regardless, the comments he made and his actions made me deeply uncomfortable. Like you, didn't want to turn it into a circus, so I didn't say anything to my manager. Later I said something to a friend that worked there, not a complaint just told her what happened and that I tried to avoid working with him where possible. A few months after I rolled off, I got a call from the head of HR from client site telling me two employees had laid complaints against him due to unwanted sexual advances, at that point my friend had told her to contact me, did I want to add to the complaint.
If I said something straight off to my manager, maybe he would have been disciplined and then not done it to someone else, it's entirely possible that it would have made no difference too. But I wish I mentioned it internally earlier.

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