Advice needed: for those in serious relationships, how do you get over arguments with your SO when you were not at fault for starting it? Do you let it go even if your SO didn't apologize for it?

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If you're a guy you always apologize

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You are seeking an answer for one of the fundamental dilemmas that human being could not solve for. Good luck

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Here is my advice: Sometimes, it's better to accept a loss in an argument and win the relationship in the long term instead :)

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Never consider who's at fault. Arguments are caused and continued by any number of factors. Try to be understanding & compassionate and expect the same in return.

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Rule for Guys :-If it's your fault then apologize if not then tell her it's still your fault and apologize.. you will save 2 hrs of your time

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You should discuss and try to figure out the root cause of the issue. Communication is definitely key and more often than not both people need to apologize. So talk it out and go from there

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Would you rather be right, or be happy?

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My suggestion is you focus on the resolution not the apology. Sounds like you - maybe both of you - are really focused on fault and who picked the fight, and not the outcome. Sounds like a pretty miserable way to go through life to me.

Let me guess, the end of your fights always end up being about something different than what the fight was actually about because one of both of you is trying to save face by manipulating the issue?

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@OP, it may seem like it's over nothing, but it's over something, even if it's not about what you think you were arguing about. Like A1 said, get to the root cause.

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Don't go down without a fight !

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Ugh! This stings more than I imagined and I think she thinks everything is all good now since this happened last night but I'm here still fuming over it. I'm just pissed that she would start such an argument over nothing. Very disappointed!

If you're a guy, apologize no matter what. "Winning" the argument will be fruitless

You always apologize no matter the side. Nobody is ever 100% innocent. If you think you are, you will likely not "fight well" in your relationships

One word. Wine.

Learn to say sorry 😐

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the comments!

Your SO should apologize for it and you should request that. Otherwise you will hold a grudge internally. I learned this the hard way as a woman in a straight relationship who never used to apologize.

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