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Advice needed: I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a while. Things are generally going well but when it comes to traveling to see each other I’m always the one making more of the effort to go to him. I understand his job isn’t as flexible but even when it was during Covid he had an excuse and I would be the one going to see him and spending weeks leaving behind my day to day to spend time with him. Am I wrong for wanting more effort and flexibility on his end?

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No you’re not. There needs to be equal effort on both sides in any relationship, regardless of distance.

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LDRs I’ve been in that didn’t work: one-directional travel, uneven travel LDRs I’ve been in that worked: even travel mixed with both meeting in a different city ✨

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Are there more nuances… like he lives in a “cooler city” or has more room in his home to accommodate two people? When my husband and I did long distance years ago I did visit him more often (vs the opposite) but it all had to do with the fact that we both really enjoyed / had more mutual friends where he was (which was where I had been living before moving for grad school)

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I’m in the cooler city lol. But I do have a roommate so maybe that’s why? He hasn’t really met a lot of my friends and I feel like I’ve met most of his and immersed myself into his life and friends and family. And I love them all. We have a dog too who lives with him so I can understand that but I keep telling him we can drive together with her. I would love for our dog to come too.

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