Advice needed!
Hi doggo parents. We adopted a 3 year old about a month ago. He’s amazing in general.

The issue: he’s incredibly attached to my SO. He whines outside the office door, doesn’t like leaving the apt for walks without SO (he’s ok once we’re out), doesn’t listen to me as well, generally just gets more excited around my SO. The last one might just be jealousy :)

Any tips on how to help our bond? I’m the only one feeding now, and started being his sole walker. Any other ideas? TYIA!

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Just give it time. He’s a boy so more active play time might make him think you’re more fun to hang with. Also, giving him more treats helps.

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Thanks for your advice EY! Even after only a week, increased playtime has really helped, he’s started to bring me his fetch toys and tug of war toys! And the treats are helping, too 🙂
More room to improve but staying patient and giving it time!

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Awww that’s so cute! When my bf (before I met him) got divorced from his wife, her cat (which she raised) was clinging on to my bf and he kept her. When I met my bf the cat was very distanced and would hardly approach me and now after 4 years she actually cuddles with me and sleeps next to me. Of course if my bf is walking around near by or if he calls her, she’ll quickly run towards him.

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I have noticed some of my adult fosters will prefer women over men (you never mentioned you or your SO’s gender but could be a possibility). With fearful fosters, my SO will sit on the floor and hand feed the dog all meals. He’ll also do training such as “touch” or “find it” with the dog. Helps the dog open up and trust him.

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Yes we considered that! I am F and my SO is M but since he was abandoned, we wonder if he had either a male owner he was attached to, or a female owner who neglected him. Either way makes me 😩

But! I have been feeding him like you said above, doing all the training, and all the rewarding. I’m happy to say we’re getting along better even after only a week! And he’s learned “down”, “up” (from a down) and we’re working on “place” (a specific spot for him to sit in when we say it).
Thank you for your advice and recommendations! And thank you for fostering 🙏🏻

Aww your dog looks similar to mine! We call her a shiba mix but she’s actually a Korean village dog. She also is very attached to me. My bf has accepted that he’ll never have quite the same bond with her but we make sure he spends alone time with her by taking her on walks/to the park so that she’s comfortable being alone with either of us. As others have said, it will be a slow process!

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They still could be in Korea 😉 we did an embark dna test for her but the result was 100% “Japanese-Korean village dog” which is kind of lame haha but definitely explains what she is. Our dog is super friendly with most strangers and loves playing with other dogs, so definitely not similar traits to a typical shiba.

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He looks a little like a Shiba mix, which notably tends to bond strongly with only one person. Others have mentioned things to help, but there might always a strong preference.

Thank you SM1!! Hope your Shiba is great 💕

My dog does this. He whines and whimpers. We hired a trainer who used a little pillow filled with chains and when the dog does something you don’t like you throw it on the floor and use a word associated with “stop” in a guttural tone. It is very effective, cruelty-free, and simple. Let me know if it works for you.

Thanks A1. As he’s a rescue, we do not want to make loud noises like this or frighten him. We also live in an apartment and our downstairs neighbors probably won’t appreciate that :)
He’s already had a pretty bad reaction to car horns and construction, so metal sounds probably won’t help here. We have a trainer who has given is positive reinforcement options. Glad this works for your pup.

Hi OP! This answer is to some of your comments that your dog can be anxious. We had a nervous dog - not a rescue just very very observant and a variety of things would “trigger” anxiety.

We worked with a trainer who taught us to get him out there to experience the things (you mentioned loud noises) but only do it in very small doses. Let him experience it, then reward for staying calm and then move away from the trigger and possibly back inside, etc if it was too much of a trigger.

Dog learns to trust you and learns to deal with their own anxiety !

Also - trainer told us that dogs shaking off (similar to how they shake when wet) is how they release stress. So praise every time you see your dog doing that!

Sometimes identifying other issues lets the dog be better in all aspects of their life.

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