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I’m a gay man married with my partner of 10 years, so I can’t give good advice on dating these days, but welcome to the family!!! 🏳️🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙
Thank you! Really means a lot ❤️
Try OKcupid or HER and be upfront. Anyone who you would want to be with will understand and will let you know if they are okay with that.
1. Recognize that you have time. You don't need to be on every app and every organization and whatever else right away.
2. I recommend meeting people platonically before you jump into dating, or at least at the same time. Building a circle of friends like you is critical! You'll also want them to be around when your dating situation hits speedbumps, as your non-lgbtq friends are less likely to get it. Socially, volunteer for lgbtq causes, such as a local lgbtq center. You can also join relevant groups on meetup.com. It is harder due to the pandemic, but it is worth a shot.
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From another femme who came out in their late 20s, sending hugs and high-5s!! 🥰
Damn, I used to work at BCG (now in a diff industry) and now I see BCG1, 2, and 3 all with the same story! Maybe I missed my shot while I was at the firm 😂 any of you ladies in Los Angeles 👀
Hi! Femme af and moving to LA next year w a married hetero couple so I definitely need queer female friends!
Definitely second the meetup idea. I tried the apps too, and struggled for matches. On the advice of a friend, I got more involved in the queer community in my city - Sunday brunch meetups, gardening clubs, hiking clubs. And I met my partner of over a year now.
Ugh girl same, been with one woman in secret but now trying to be out! Finding super femme ladies is my struggle too. I miss stealing my guy friend's girls at the bars 😂🤷🏻♀️
Same here - femme coming out in my late 20s. Guess it's not a unique situation after all. 😄
I highly back the idea of getting involved in your queer community - volunteer, meet ups, etc. I volunteered for Pride last year and made a bunch of queer friends. It's a good first step before diving into the dating game.
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And understand that you are correct that this is an odd time to get into the dating game, so don’t get discouraged
Not BCG but literally RT what all of you said. Same boat. Kinda an odd time we’re in to meet people but surround yourself with friends who are like-minded. It really helped me put myself out there and introduced me to people I was looking for!
I hope this gives you the hope...i happened to see a gay couple on the dating app who are both bottom, but they just really like each other. There would be someone for you and you will definitely find your type that likes you back.
Same! Came out and was with a woman for my first time when I was 28. It will work out! Wishing you all the best ☺️