Advice re dealing w/ unfair criticism in review: Firm gives full text of reviews & a summary. My actual evals were very positive, but the “summary” had this unsubstantiated & horrifying line: “Take care your communications with work providers show appropriate DEFERENCE and collegiality.” I suspect it’s from a highly insecure female partner who constantly negs me. I’m a 2011 grad, a team player, & am unsettled by sexist undertones re “deference.” Thoughts on how to tactfully raise at review mtg?

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Wow I just went through this. The female partner blasted me on the phone and told me I don't know anything, she has the experience and makes the calls. I confided in my partner mentor who is a male and he said everyone has these experiences with the female partner and he'll try to get me off of projects with her because I said this would drive me to quit. Can you try to get off cases with her? Unfair is unfair and you won't convince her.

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Ask for clarity surrounding the comment. Perhaps a specific example of what it is alluding to. Press and. Good luck.

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And make sure it actually is from her. I had a line in my evaluations once about my communication becoming short and less polite when stressed and thought it was from one person and was furious. Found out that it was someone else and the comment actually made sense because it was a cultural thing.

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Ask for specific examples. It could be that a partner misinterpreted something he/she read and holds it against you. Context is everything.

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