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I was contacted by an Amazon recruiter for a remote Sr. Program Manager role. I took and passed the assessment and was moved to the hiring manager round which was scheduled for tomorrow. I got an email tonight saying that the Director of the group decided that the person must be in Seattle. I am in Austin, which is not an option. I’m disappointed! The recruiter will let me know if any remote roles come up but in the mean time, does anyone have any remote Amazon roles that they’d refer me to?
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Ask them to lunch instead then
Enthusiast
This bowl I swear haha
Take the chance
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-crgQGdpZR0
Take the chance. If you ever get married to someone else that person will cease to exist after a while. so might as well shoot your shot
Enthusiast
Depends, do you actually want to be friends with them or are you just sticking around for an "emotional relationship" that you don't want to lose?
Most of my guy friends used me to date me & disappeared after or kept trying after saying no. It feels terrible being used in a friendship and there's definitely a right way to go about asking. Make your intentions clear. Tell them that you've grown to have feelings for them and ask them to dinner. If they say no, no sweat! Tbh I hated when my guy friends would randomly start to cuddle or try to make a move out of nowhere. It caught me way off guard.
Shoot your shot. You’re hurting yourself the longer this goes on.
And this doesn’t necessarily ruin friendships, two of my closest friends are women that I disclosed my feelings to - it was awkward for a while after rejection, but ended up ok.
Chief
Do it. Do it.
If either side caught feelings, the friendship is gone until both parties are back to 0. You two are not friends, you are just wasting your emotions. Have you tried flirting and if so, did it get reciprocated? Also I am told that some ppl genuinely don’t know if the other side finds them attractive and is receptive, which I find unbelievable but different folks I guess. My point is that always when there was a need to clarify the feelings, despite flirting on both ends, then there was no real relationship interest. A lot of ppl flits just for fun and ego busting 🤷♀️
Chief
ask them to cuddle
Either make a move and ask or bury the feelings until they go away (just find someone else, it’s easier). If you hold the feelings but don’t move on them (aka pining/unrequited love), then you’re friends under false pretenses, which is no good.
Also if you do ask them out don’t “ask them to dinner”, which is ambiguous. Ask if they will go on a date- dinner maybe? Otherwise they’re likely to misunderstand your intentions, which are to date them.
And if they say no it’s OK.
I have a friend I had a crush on- asked her out, she said no- that was almost 10 years ago and now we’re best friends- I will officiate her wedding in a few months and her and her future husband will sit in the family section at mine next year.
Rising Star
Yeah… what’s the deal? How interested are you? If you are really interested, just do it. If unsure, definitely don’t. Share more context?
Rising Star
Please tell us what you do :)
Rising Star
Actually A1 has a good point. I had two really close friends, lost those relationships entirely. Both were great friendships. Love would have felt forced. Are you M or F? Do you think this other person is interested?
Rising Star
So: catch us up OP. What did you do? This bo wants to know :)
Hey folks, so sorry for the late reply on my end:
The recommendations are as follows; we’ve found that asking her out would not be good in the long run.
Namely, I believe the three criteria are not met:
1) I don’t think I meet her notion of a “good looking guy”
2) tried to signal I’ll be in her neck of the woods, and was not given any response
3) she doesn’t love the song “Clarity” by Zedd/Foxes
Could you do Mr Brightside?