After 2.5 years of long-term relationship, I finally find a job in my boyfriend's country and able to live with him in 2 months. I am always a cat person but my boyfriend doesn't get it. But he agrees we can adopt one once we live together. I was wondering what are the things that I need to make him aware of before having a cat to set the expectation?

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I’ve read that if you are concerned about a good personality fit then it’s best to adopt an adult cat since kittens can be unpredictable.

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Make sure he isn’t allergic!

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I’d tell him the furniture and carpet may take a hit while you adjust the cat to where they’re allowed to scratch. Make sure you have plenty of scratching posts. I have the carpet kind, rope kind, and cardboard kind as each cat has different preferences.

Also buy him some rollers for cat fur on clothes and establish where he’d like the litter boxes.

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If you have had cats before and you have the training and patience, you could foster or board for a while so it isn't a long term commitment.

We don't want you to be unsuccessful or put too much stress on your relationship. Just like you wouldn't have/raise a kid with someone you cannot count on you don't want another life depending on a flake.

Baby steps : keep going together to Petco or shelters to give cats some attention. See if they grow on him.

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