After 5 years of layoffs and no career progression, I feel like shit and am turning into a bitter and repulsive person, effectively the kind of person I would hate.

I was extremely ambitious and have been excellent at every role but now that same ambition is killing me knowing that I am an underachiever and an embarrassment to myself.

My mind is killing me in a ruthless fashion. Not sure how much more of this I can take. No question, just needed to vent I suppose.

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I hear you. A couple suggestions on books you might consider reading:

1. Love yourself like your life depends on it (practical tips to commit to fostering love for yourself, from someone who has felt like a failure)
2. Feeling good (covers cognitive distortions which there are a lot of in your post)

Hope this helps! Sending positive vibes

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