After a long day at work, just got dumped by my long term girlfriend of 5 years. Is this really worth it?

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5yrs? Not to kick while you're down, but what stopped you from marrying her? Genuine question- something must have. I imagine she got tired of waiting for you.

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Great question by GS1

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MS2, can't believe that you can hold such sexist thoughts in this day and age and cheer on quoting that opinion.

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So OP, did you just answer your own question on whether it's worth it or not? Also, give us more context so that we can advise if necessary. Why do you think she dumped you? Is it because you had no time due to work? Loss of interest? Also from GS1 -- what stopped you from marrying her? 5 years is quite some time.

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MS2- I wholeheartedly disagree. You're assuming that a woman cannot have status on the surface and a man cannot be attractive because of looks. Rephrased: you're essentially narrowing both sexes down to "men make money and women are sex toys." It just isn't true. My wife was promoted to MD 8 months before we were married- a deal breaker for me was she had to have a career and be ambitious. I had to be intrigued and inspired by her. And she tells me she married me for my looks (as she's handing me workout clothes to head to the gym- put on a few lbs). Your message just isn't reality.

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@IB1 I love women and believe in equality. However, at the surface what makes a woman attractive is looks and at the surface what makes a man attractive is status. Yes, there are exceptions and yes once a deeper relationship is developed there's more to it but at the surface this is simply facts. Anyone denying this is lying to themselves to be politically correct

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Marriage? 5 years is a long time?? Serious relationship before 28??? Maybe I'm an outlier here but I have no interest in marriage until at least mid-30's. Women age like milk, men age like wine. Your value will only increase from here. Keep on truckin

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MS2 your value system is deplorable.

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Yes it's really worth it. I promise you'll find someone better and she wont. That's an absolute promise.

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@MS2 please please please stop talking. Life is a lot more complex than you make it out to be, and love is much less predictable. I really think OP will find someone better - read a book called the happiness hypothesis to get a clue as to why and how!

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You go GS1. Need to see and hear more like you in public. Hope MS2 gets to the desired status by the mid-30s

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Define "worth it?" If it's money you care about, then hell yeah it's worth it. If you want to have a serious relationship before you're like 28, probably not worth it.

#savagebutfacts

@MSop you'll meet someone better, everything happens for a reason. If you don't think banking is worth the sacrifice then you can change careers. Do some soul searching and do what makes you happy. Move forward and forget the past.

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