After being berated for years in consulting and seeing partners berate directors who berate managers who berate SAs I’m finally leaving for my dream exit opp. How do I build back confidence and start this new role with my best foot forward ? Any book recommendations as well?

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Meditation before the start of every work day seems to help me.

Congratulations! I can’t speak for you but if it’s something you’ve been exposed to for years you may have to start practicing shifting your mindset to see the good and trust others. See the human in everyone and get to know your coworkers on a personal level. Good luck! This sounds like a great fresh start for you :)

I have been there! A lot of it is reminding yourself that the consulting culture is not a real reflection on your talent and capabilities.

Also, check out Amy Cuddy’s TEDTalks (esp ‘Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are) and book (Presence). There are great concepts as well as great tactics for building your confidence even when you still may be struggling to remember how great you are. They’re some of the best gifts I’ve ever given myself and in ten years of using her ideas, they haven’t failed me once!

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