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After weeks of talking about my pregnancy, showing my big baby belly on camera and being vocal about my excitement to be a FTM, I just discovered that one of my coworkers had a devastating miscarriage a few weeks ago. I feel HORRIBLE, and I am trying to think of anything I can do to help her feel supported. I truly had no idea, and as soon as I found out, I apologized profusely for all of my baby-talk when she was facing such a loss. Is there anything I can do for her? I am devastated for her 😣😭

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I would just give her some space. There's no need to apologize for celebrating your pregnancy. Just recognize she might not be in the right headspace to celebrate openly with you and maybe don't actively bring it up with her unless she initiates.

I miscarried and my coworker told me she was planning to get pregnant in the next few months as she wanted to have her kid at a specific time (as if it is so simple) and I just kept my distance from her until I was ready. I also avoided all pregnant friends and moms of small kids for a few months as it was so triggering for me. So id just politely let her lead and give her the space she probably needs right now. But also you be you and don't feel too guilty, you did nothing wrong. Congrats on your pregnancy!!

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Another perspective here - I miscarried last year as well while I felt like I watched all of my friends and co-workers get pregnant. Initially it was hard and many of them would say they would try and not bring it up with me, but I always wanted to hear how they/the baby was doing. It gave me hope for having another chance go better. That was a year ago almost to the day, and I’m now 36 weeks. Everyone heals/grieves differently. The suggestion to let her take the lead is great!

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Thank you so much for this and congratulations!! 💗

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