After years of being overworked and having requests for help go unacknowledged- I put in notice after 20 years. In addition to this, this job checks every box as far as being a toxic workplace, I made the decision to save my mental health in lieu of a paycheck. It has not been formally announced that I’m leaving, but the word is out, and I am getting the “silent treatment”. I know this shouldn’t bother me but it does- is this just the way it’s going to be for the next 3 weeks?

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If you're not needing a paycheck or references, I'd bounce

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You're gone now!!

Sounds consistent with the toxic culture you’re referring to so… most likely

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Bounce and don’t feel bad. I left my last job of 20 years after being passed up for promotion. I got a promotion coming to the new job and within 15 months got another. Your workplace doesn’t love you. And it sounds like this one doesn’t even appreciate you.

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Your peace, mental health, and overall worth is valuable. May your future beyond that place yield everything you deserve.

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Don’t feel bad. I don’t know how old you are, but you will feel younger and happier once you leave. I did it last year after 12 years and I am way better now. You did the right thing. I congratulate you for your courage. You will discover the world is much bigger. Toxic work environment is bad for the health.

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Yes they are. Thanks for the encouragement.

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20 years is a long time. Well done to you for being so committed! And an even bigger round of applause for getting out!
If they can't even be professional enough to acknowledge the last 20 years, it's good you're getting out.

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Toxic places and people don't become better because you are leaving them.
Once they know you are serious about leaving they want to take one last dig.
Go where you are valued, and grab all the lessons good and bad from this place and use it to do better for your future.
They already robbed years off your life that you are not going to get back don't give them another minute by being bothered.

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That would bother me as well. Could you ask to work from home, or feign a super contagious illness? I

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Sounds like COVID to me !

That'll be the longest 3 weeks of your life. Bounce with your mental health where it is currently and no worse ✌🏻

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There’s a checklist?

Don't feel bad about it, OP. Choosing your mental health over money is a valid choice. Let them do what they want. You are free, that's what's more important now.

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