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I am from Mumbai, and my office is in Pune Hinjewadi.
Till now I was working from home. Now office has mandated hybrid mode, and expecting us to work any 2days per from office every week.
so basically, every week I need one or two days stay in Pune.
Apart from going to Month long PG, which costs for entire month, is there any economical way to reduce the cost of stay, by paying only for the no. of days.
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I'm really struggling with this too. I'm really lost. But I'm trying to just own it and follow my own path from here, which I think means reprioritizing some of these friendships even though these people are important to me.
I deactivated all social media to shield myself from engagement news and baby photosโฆ then my last single best friend just got engaged last weekโฆ Iโm trying to convince myself that a single childless life can be a happy life too
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It very much can!
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The gays arenโt all peaches either. Too much anxiety, too status-, sex-, and image-obsessed, too much partying. Take your friends where you can find them.
Been married - nothing to glorify here. If you are single, then enjoy your single life. The grass always seems greener on the other side
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Agreed! Iโve been single and in many relationships, and married - itโs been generally great single and coupled up. I think important to enjoy the moment and try oneโs best not pine for what might be better.
Im in the same boat. All my friends from college are straight and I feel really close to them, but life is inevitably taking us in different directions. I hope to find more friends in a similar situation.
I enjoy being single, but I agree that it sucks when you have no one to hang out with unless you want to be a third, fifth, seventh or ninth wheel (or more).
Why don't you childless gay guys connect with other gays? There's clearly enough of you around. Why don't you already have a circle of close gay friends?
I can sympathize with the predicament, and solved it by getting gay friends and adding single childless women to friend groups too. My straight married friends may go to pride with me at 1pm to show support, and that's great, but the gays and girlfriends will party with me at 1am.
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Interesting, Iโve never had problems making gay friends - some platonic, some not, but I also find these boundaries to be arbitrary but everyone is different in how they want to define their friendships. I donโt see why hooking up with someone precludes them from being your friend as well - whether one starts as friends first or the other way around.
Anyway, I think itโs a very broad generalization, but also a bit problematic, to say that โtoo many gays are a headacheโ or that โgays tend to look for friends based on physical attractionโ. Iโm not saying these arenโt/canโt be true but if thatโs the mindset one has going into it, it feels like it would be a self-fulfilling prophecy. ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
Youโre not alone - seems like a lot of us are in the same situation. All of my close friends are getting married, buy a house in the suburbs and get kids. For a lot of them itโs not a dance on roses either, so I keep on reminding myself that โtheir lifeโ comes with its unique set of challenges, too.
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Same. And one of guys in my college friend group recently came out and we were all shocked. For years I thought I am the one. ๐ข
He is married and Iโm still single af.
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Hey, I love Boston!
This is me and my husband. All of our friends have begun having kids (multiple kids) over the last two years, so now weโre becoming a boring couple in the suburbs.
This isnโt you. You have a husband. Go away! Lol ๐
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Curious why you donโt have any queer friends? I have a lot of straight and queer friends - they all range from single/coupled/parents but the straight folks def skew more to the coupled/parent part but I donโt think I find it to be a problem. I def see my friends who are parents less but it has gotten better as some of their kids are getting older but thatโs okay. But I have plenty of queer and straight friends (many who are single) as well who are fun and want to socialize/go out etc. - so I donโt feel like I donโt fit in. Assuming you are in a major city, perhaps find some activities thatโs Iโll help you broaden your social circle. I have found the queer sports leagues to be a great to make new friends.
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Interesting. Personally, I donโt see why that matters. Friendship and hooking up arenโt mutually exclusive. Either way, you may be missing out. Believe it or not, there are more who will want to make new friends than you are realize, and many who will want to hookup as well and many who will want both. I find all three options to be great - it actually takes the stress away from me. But we are different - I would encourage you to find ways to meet more queer folks that are perhaps not nightlife related - say volunteer with a queer org or join a queer sports league.
Iโm in a relationship and still feel this way.