All, my wife is pregnant and we are expecting our first child soon. My wife’s job has standard unpaid 12 weeks maternity leave. Is it likely I’ll be able to take 2-3 months or is that just “you have it but can’t take it” policy where I’ll be penalized at year end?

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Take the full 16 weeks my friend. I did it and do not regret it. No one gave me a hard time. In fact, most people encouraged it. Bonus was prorated, but nothing else impacted for me at YE.

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Same for myself and my husband when we took our leaves at deloitte. Its an amazing benefit. Ive known many men to take it as well & not be hurt by it

You should absolutely take your full paternity leave for many reasons, including that Deloitte will drop you in a hot minute if you aren’t making them enough money (even if you don’t take your leave) and this time with your child is precious bonding time that you can’t replace. You also have an opportunity to provide significant support to your wife and child at literally no financial cost to yourself.

Also, if you don’t take the full leave, you are signaling to the women who work with and for you that you don’t value parental leave. When men don’t take the parental leave that the firm provides and women do, it puts women at a professional disadvantage. As a woman who wants to have children, I have paid attention to the men I work for who didn’t take their paternity leave and have considered whether they would be good allies for me when I have children, and whether I want to invest in building relationships with them if they won’t have my back.

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Excellent point D3, men are also hurt by those who don’t take their leave. It perpetuates stigma around taking necessary and important family bonding time.

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Might want to ask in the Deloitte bowl.

Take what you can though. It’s time you’ll never get back. So worth it.

Congrats!!!!

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You can’t ever get this time back. You can always work harder later even *if* you’re “penalized”. Life isn’t about work. It’s about those moments

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Dude who cares. Take it. It’s yours.

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Nah, seen way too many ladies getting promoted from SC to M having two kids in between... 🤷‍♂️... go ahead and enjoy as much as you can

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Y’all were so quick to twist that person’s comment. 😂 Him taking paternal leave should not affect his ability to be promoted nor should it be counted against him in a performance review. If that did become the case, that will be a legal matter. Many women have taken maternal leave and still are able to get promoted.

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100% take it. If you have the opportunity to space it out over the first year, look at planning for more time at home when they’re a bit older, or if / when your wife is going back to work.

Definitely take the first few weeks; they’re awesome. That said, there’s a lot more that the dad / non-birth mom can do when kiddo gets a bit older and they’re less reliant on birth / nursing mom.

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If penalized = slightly lower bonus or delayed promotion, it really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Take the time, be a dad, and be happy!! We don’t have kids yet but I can’t imagine thinking of promotions and bonuses as a reason to have not spent the precious time.

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Congrats! Take advantage of it! I have one on the way and was really looking forward to the 16 weeks. I recently found out project delivery only gets 2 weeks though.

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Took full leave, no penalty, no regrets. Just know your AIP will be prorated but (1) shouldn’t matter (2) who knows if there is AIP next year to begin with. Hands down the best benefit we have in the firm and from what I know, across the industry.

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Take it. I know plenty of men at deloitte that have...no repurcussions

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Dude take it—family always needs to come first, especially if the only impact is an (unlikely) delayed promotion or a few grand less in bonus.

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I took the full 4 months. Totally worth it and better than taking small chunks at a time.

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Agree with this. Ability to fully roll off projects and then back on is what makes the leave legit.

Damn 2-3 months? Idk what our paternity leave length is but everyone I know who took it literally still answered emails and logged on daily during their “leave”.

Some companies do better than others. Bank of America turns your email access off and put an OOO up saying your on maternity / paternity leave.

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Same boat (due jan), different company and absolutely taking the full 4 months. Priceless benefit if you have the option take it

You won’t get penalized

You will never get that time back. Exactly, why Deloitte will penalize you for it at ye.

OP, take all the baby leave you can. It’s one of the best perks at Deloitte. And no, you will not be penalized. I know this for a fact.

Congratulations on your first born. Enjoy the time, they are truly precious

Take all your leave!

Thank you all for your responses. I am happy to see this is a serious perk at Deloitte and not viewed negatively. Really appreciate everyone’s input

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