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All these recent posts on cheating and lack of sex/ spark in long term relationships and marriages has really got me shook (perhaps I need a break from FB). As someone who was cheated on in a past relationship it has taken me a long time to realize that “not all men cheat,” and I’m still working through it. The last few days on here have been a major setback so much so that I even shared this with my SO (who had been hurt by my previous mindset that you can’t ever 100% trust anyone).

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Just keep in mind the majority of men on here are just 🚩 in general

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Well they can’t sit w us 😤😂

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I mean, what do you expect to see in a confession bowl? You’re essentially looking at the tabloids section of the app and are surprised that people are posting about infidelity. It’s the most scandalous thing an average white collar person could do in their life. If it was in any way interesting to reveal that you’ve been completely faithful to your spouse, I’m sure the posts would more than drown out the posts about infidelity. I would suggest not shaping your worldview off of a heavily biased and non representative sample. For the record, I’ve been with my wife over 10 years and I’ve never cheated on her and I would bet my life on my wife never having cheated on me either.

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Well that’s not true. I’d love to know what you’ve done to be happily married for 26 years. Serious goals right there! (My parents were divorced so even at 30 years old I don’t exactly have a model to turn to).

Just a reminder that the people in happy and healthy relationships have little reason to post/comment here, this is not a good sample set for the general population. If you’re a woman and looking for some encouragement that plenty of those happy and healthy relationships exist, I’d recommend posting in the women’s in consulting bowl - there’s lots of positive vibes and honest advice flowing over there for anyone who needs it.

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The right person won’t cheat on you. I have a hard time trusting people too, and it’s not a weakness. I think communication matters so much, make sure that issues are discussed early and in earnest so no one is ignored and the relationship never degrades to the point where cheating is even has a glimmer of happening.

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The vast majority of people don’t cheat in a healthy relationship with good communication. IMO it’s also important your SO has had long term relationships before, you learn a lot about making things work through experience. That’s assuming y’all aren’t college sweethearts of course.

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Agree with all of the above things which people have said. I am single but currently there are 2 of my married exes who sometimes send flirty msgs to the point of me being awkward about it. We are friends so I just laugh it off and ignore. But this is in addition to another ex with whom it didn’t end well and he calls me once/twice a year without the knowledge of his wife as she isn’t ok with it. There was another one a long time back who flirted even after being married and then suddenly blocked me from everywhere. This is excluding the people who you don’t know well and still ping after they are in a relationship or are married. So I am always going to have trust issues when I get married.

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This is a place for people in consulting and law. We are generally miserable. LOL but for real I've never cheated and I have no doubt that my husband has never cheated.

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And advertising. But it’s not like we’re thriving either.

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All men cheat given the opportunity

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Well that’s a pretty uplifting sentiment, but no.

To each their own I guess

Been together 15 years. Never cheated. Hubby still lights a fire in my pants.

Sure lol

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