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Chief
Denzel Washington met his wife when he was 22-23 just starting his career in Hollywood. They met on the set of his first gig. And she’s 4 years older.
This is an app where the grand majority of users are adults in the corporate world. Sure, if you’re dating a 22 or 23 year old who’s just starting their career you should be open minded and consider the person’s potential. But I assume few people on this app are 22-23 and many professionals that age range aren’t exactly looking for a spouse soon. It’s not the 1970s (when the Washingtons met).
Or are you implying that we should consider dating aspiring actors who are broke because they just might become an Oscar-winning celebrity? 😂
IMO, pointing to Denzel as an example to make whatever point you’re trying to make is not as clever as you think…
Rising Star
OP, you’re not SMI1. I was responding to the SM1 who commented right under VP’s.
And I appreciate you attempting to be lighthearted. We’re not used to that on this app 😂
Pro
Anecdotal evidence is my favorite
Step 1. Look like Denzel
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Step 4. Profit!
Pro
Same thing with Grant Hill and his now wife, Tamia. He purposefully left his wallet on their first date to see if she was willing to pay for their first date. And well…look at them now. We’ve become so obsessed with money that sometimes we fail to see what it’s all about…making a genuine human connection and see how that develops. My 2 cents. I’m out.
Enthusiast
Question is would you encourage your daughter to take a risk on a guy that may not ever become self sufficient.
Rising Star
OP and if they loved each other. I wouldn’t want my daughter thinking that she needs to settle for money and ending up in a bad marriage and divorced soon after
Chief
Oh god, you sound like my dad 😩 I won't let another man gaslight me into feeling bad about not dating broke men. And they don't want me either with all their resentment. Like you want me to pay for your dinner AND stroke your ego because you wish you could do more and don't feel like a man? Nah bro
Rising Star
You don’t have to be a scrub to not earn much, for example, what about a teacher who makes 40-50k at best a year? Men have been marrying and as you say “carrying” teachers, social workers, etc. for decades. As the saying goes “give a man a lot of money and he will likely try to raise a woman up. Give a woman a lot of money and she will likely tell you she don’t need no man”
I predict (and technically the study above is already showing the signs of it) that women will have to adjust to their own equality or we will see the marrying age become older and older and more just situationship relationships become the common where some are just co-parenting. Personally I’m OK with that as I believe marriage unless for religious reason is a sham
uh these men out here do not look like denzel pls!
Rising Star
Jordan Peele who wrote Get Out didn’t have a car for many years while he and his GF (now wife) were dating. She would drive him to his job
Rising Star
I do appreciate what you’re saying though!
Conversation Starter
Women will pay for hot charismatic 22-23 yos on the first date. Sounds about right.