Alright ladies, let’s get personal: how does anyone find ANY time for a sex life with the demands of our career? I’m particularly interested in those of you whose significant other is also an attorney.

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Honestly, I sometimes have to schedule it on advance. Fiancé is not a lawyer and finds it a little weird, but it has helped our sex life! It feels a little weird to say "okay, sex on Wednesday" but honestly sometimes that's what it takes. Carve out time in advance so that you can work around it and use the set time to build anticipation (e.g., can't wait for tonight kind of messages all day).

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I do this. It’s not the most romantic but it’s better than a dead bedroom.

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Husband and I are both in big law. Both in early 30s and we do it maybe once every few MONTHS. No kids. Just being completely honest due to anonymity. We’re both very stressed, go to bed at different times due to work. If we have time, we spend it with each other and do fun things but yeah.

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Literally: im in big law— he just works late nights. a couple times a week we just shower and do it, like knock it out. It’s almost like a task in my day if I’m honest but it’s the only way

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As a single person, I just basically don’t have one. In addition to time for the actual deed, I have to swipe through apps, chat with dudes, schedule dates, go on dates, decide whether they are safe to go home with, determine if they want to sleep with me, etc. It’s truly exhausting.

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Some people are complaining about once a month—that would be a dream for me! I average once a year!

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I’ve only been with my partner for a few months so we are still into it - it’s either last thing we do before bed or first thing we do weekend mornings. Skip a day here and there and my periods been bad post vaccine but when I’m off it, he’s in it, you know?

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“When I’m off it, he’s in it” 😂

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Married to another lawyer 19 years, average 3 times a week. We just make the time 😘. All in, it isn’t more than about 5-10 minutes each occasion.

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A vib saved my sex life. 100%.

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We go to the gym at the same time on the weekends and shower together afterwards to “conserve water.”

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Husband is a lawyer and we’ve become a mostly weekend only couple. I try not to work more than 4-5 hours over the weekend (combined), sometimes less, so we have our free time for dates & intimacy over the weekend.

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6/6:30 sex/dinner break before we both log back on after dinner.

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Talk about efficient!

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Just do it. Get to bed earlier. Consider it a part of your mental health. You need the endorphins! Think of it as that workout you didn’t get to but your body needs. So, number one think of yourself and why it’s self care for you. Number two, your partner needs it too. Number three, your relationship will function way better. There’s really no downside.

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Also, my body isnt in the top shape it was before I became a lawyer so I am not as confident to get naked.

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Feel this so much. Stress eating + little time to workout has done a number.

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Following. My spouse and I are down to like a couple times a month because we both work so much… 😬

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This :'(

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Morning quickies (with the assistance of lube!) if we’re both awake at the same time. Quality may not be as good but keeps the quantity at about 2x week. Weekends and vacations for better performances.

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Trying throwing two kids into the mix 😅 I’m not sure I even know how to have sex anymore.

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My husband is an engineer, but his job is stressful and demanding as well. 3 kids (12, 8 and 6). If we go three days without having sex it would be abnormal (for us). Sex is like food. I can skip it, but I will be cranky. 😆 I'll be honest, my husband is amazing in bed so that probably helps. We also go to bed at the same time which I think is key.

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Sound out to my fellow lower sex frequency marriage without kids. I hear you and am one of you! We are in our 30s, average about 1-2x a month. Half the time we schedule it, half the time we don’t. Usually we just stick to our unofficial weekly sexy time, which is Saturday afternoon. If skipped then we start talking about scheduling it 🤣

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We rarely have sex during the week, usually Friday + Sunday or if we both happen to be done early with work. We definitely get snippy at each other if it goes more than a week, and that typically is enough to get one of us to seduce the other the next night.

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I can’t tell you how incredibly seen I feel from this. I want to make more time for intimacy. My husband and I are both just so stressed all the time it rarely happens. We’re about to start trying for kids, so I’m hoping that helps us build a routine/schedule we can keep up. Lack of regular sex has made me feel pretty undesirable though!

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We have a once a week rule & if that means it has to happen at 1am then that’s what happens. Two demanding careers, a toddler, & a puppy — doesn’t matter. We gotta do it yall!

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We got a vibrator to help turn me on. The sensation is so intense that my stressed out brain cannot help but feel aroused and there’s no pressure to make my come because the vibrator guarantees that. Sometimes I even go solo during the day to alleviate stress, and the solo sessions just help with intimacy with my partner later. Sex is like exercise; the more you do it, the easier it is, the more you want to do it, and the better you’ll feel.

Oh, and also, a regular running routine helped me manage my stress and made sex more enjoyable.

See also, lube. I used to be ashamed that I needed a vibrator and lube to help arouse me, but I’m just at a different life stage where I need more help getting out of my head.

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We’re both lawyers. Don’t live together but when one of us has a lighter evening we’ll go over to the other’s apartment and work on our laptop. We usually make time for it most evenings we see each other - it’s not always an extended process and I don’t always worry about orgasming. But maintaining intimacy and touch is important!

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Oh I second that orgasm not being required takes some of the pressure off

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