Going back to work after my second kid in 2 weeks. Feels so good to get back from being tied down with non mentally stimulating things but can’t stop worrying about doing two jobs - cooking, cleaning, meal planning,responding to 100 emails from my kids preschool , pickups/drop offs, etc . My husband is good but he can only do things when I tell him to - even for changing the light bulb. He says Will take care of my older kid during weekends for me to do all planning, cooking cleaning etc.
I feel very lost. I just started as an associate at a big firm this year and have a one year old son. Learning how to be a mom and an associate has been extremely tough and I have felt burnt out on multiple occasions this year. Prior to having a child, I was a very determined individual and was used to saying yes to almost everything because I wanted to accomplish those things. Nowadays I feel like I don’t care about my job as much and being away from him gets more and more difficult.
I am moving from USDC Lake Mary to Gilbert early next year. I am looking to buy a home there within few months of moving there. Things I am looking for are a good school district (kid will start school next year) and possibly some Indian population. Any recommendations?
Moving to San Diego in the spring from the central coast. Any recs on places to live (late 30’s with a kid)? Want to be close to restaurants and things to do, but a little too old and tired for gas lamp!
Baby outgrew the nuna pipa in his 6th month… what car seat would you all recommend? Kinda confused and haven’t done enough research around this because I thought this day wasn’t coming around for atleast another year! Apparently not! Any recommendations on what we could go for?
Growing up, gay 🐠, how many of you had a male role model? (father, uncle, male close relative, etc., that was present enough in your life to be a positively influential role model)? I had none, and was curious about others.
I know I may sound like a total entitled bitch but I get so irritated with my in laws. I love them dearly but they always say they want to “help” with the baby - but that means that they watch her for 30 minutes and then if she fusses or needs a diaper change they hand her back to us. I’m okay with this except that they ALWAYS say they want to help. And then when they come here on the weekends we are furiously cleaning and cooking because that’s the only time we have. I told my husband (cont.)
Why is maternity leave, policy and other women's issues not important as compared to Juneteenth, coed bathrooms, and all the other issues in the media today? Women are half the population and at an average of 2.1 kids per woman, these are major issues. Are we not vocal enough? Organized enough? Not a serious voting demographic? Too grateful things are better in this generation? What is it? Why does 50% of the population matter less compared to these smaller marginal groups?
I'm 33 weeks pregnant and exhaustion is hitting me really hard, even worse than in my first tri. I'm sleeping 6-8 hours a night (I'm waking up without an alarm and unable to go back to sleep) but then need a 2 hour nap in the morning (?!?!) to get through the day. Even then, I'm still exhausted and having a hard time focusing when I wake up. Any tips? I've been using melatonin at night, which helps but isn't fixing the whole thing. Ideas appreciated!
Had a serious post partum emotions discussion with my husband yesterday and cried a ton, being honest with how I was feeling. Wasn't sure if being honest and vulnerable was going to make a big change, but this morning he was the sweetest and I'm so glad I did 😊 he changed the baby's diaper and was super positive and helpful with our 3 year old! Having coffee now and so grateful
Hey PwC time to step up your parental leave...
Need advice from more experienced fishes. How much should I increase my FSA contribution if I plan to (try to) get pregnant next year?
Anyone left their jobs after having a baby to stay at home? I never even considered but just left on maternity leave and don’t think I can see myself going back to biglaw or honestly any other corporate job. If money isn’t an issue and I don’t like what I do, is it worth fighting to keep going in this profession? Guess I need some words of encouragement…
Saw a very very faint line on the Walgreens test. I’m 7 days before my next period. Is it too early to test ? Is a faint line (barely visible) normal, even when you are not pregnant? Trying to understand if I should be excited .
KPMG moms: what's our maternity leave in easy to understand terms. 4 weeks before due date (of which one week is PTO) then 12 weeks paid after and an additional 12 weeks of job protection but either unpaid or PTO etc use?
Serious question. What baby items are most expensive? (other than diapers, formula, college education, nanny.. Etc)
My husband just called me slut today as I took a call (emergency work call) instead of helping to make my kid sleep. He does majority of childcare due to his schedule but shouting at me that I am a slut when I am trying to make a living hurts . He has his parents trust fund to go back to and we are already in counseling . I am terrified I would be living on the streets (what if there is a lay off) and divorced . Vent over . Thanks for reading .
My ex wife with whom I share custody of my 14 year old daughter has a live-in boyfriend who recently lost his mother and has developed a drinking problem. For the second week in a row I’ve had to pick up my daughter from their apartment because they were fighting and screaming at each other. Last time (1:30 AM Friday morning) he had physically assaulted my ex wife and then threatened to kill himself. I thought surely my ex wife would have kicked him out at least and better yet gotten a contd.
Do anyone know what are the wfh kits will be provided by Hexaware for experienced employees who is joining newly to organization? Any ideas?
I haven’t even finished the final round with the company and they are asking my passport for visa purpose already…why do rush? (Not in the states) Also I am in the process with mbb.
In software implementation for a large HCM software company. Have an HR degree and have been at this for nearly a decade. No “real” HR experience other than HR transformation stuff I’ve picked up in the tech world (we did do a lot of strategy based stuff to complement the software solutions). Is there any need out there for someone like me in industry that’s not an HRIS manager?
My firm pays out bonuses in January. Does it make sense to max out my 401k from my bonus? I believe bonuses are taxed at a higher rate if I’m not mistaken.
Hello Hi, As part of my CTC for Advisory Analyst (Accounting and Internal Controls) joined in July,2021 they have mentioned that performance bonus/variable bonus is of 0-10%. How much I can get and when do I get this? Can anyone tell me about this?
How much notice is required before taking parental leave at BCG? Is there something required per rule or is it more just best practice to give 60/90 days notice to give folks time to plan/schedule around it?
What is the next designation after Senior Security Consultant 2 at EY GDS is the designation is equivalent to lead or assistant manager please comment 🙏🏻
Anyone have ideas for somewhere where I can practice excel interviews? I have a 1-hr excel case interview coming up with one of the FAANGs for a product ops / strategy role. I’ll be given a data set and will be asked to work through a few questions with the interviewer.
Hi, any inside of a typical salary for a team leader of midsized quant teams -around 30 people?
Thoughts on adding people you interviewed with on LinkedIn even if you didn’t take the offer? Thought some of the people I talked to were really cool and I’d like to keep in touch with them.
Hi Friends, I need urgent help. Suppose in experience letter my designation is test specialist but in candidate form of EY I gave senior test specialist. Will it be problem? Actually after getting promotion I thought I became senior test specialist so gave senior test specialist in EY form. As next band is for senior people and I wrote as senior test specialist. But later I saw it was test specialist designation in my current company. Will that create problem in verification?
After how many dates would you have the talk with someone? I’ve been seeing a guy for 5-6 weeks already, with weekly dates and I’m developing pretty strong feelings for him. I feel like it’s mutual but we haven’t really discussed labels or anything. Ideally, I’d love to be exclusive. Curious to hear your thoughts!
I don’t know how common this is, but why are so many employees at Eli Lilly and Company under the consultant title? These seem to be full-time employees not on contract either.
Cartier watches. For a woman that already has a Datejust with a silver dial and wants something to mix it up. It would be my second watch and I’m debating between the Santos, French Tank, Ballon, Tank Solo or a Tank Louis. Which one is your favorite?
When you flex trip, do you expense the uber from the airport to the hotel in your alt location?
Where the best place to take a call/work in ORD? Is United club good enough? Ideally would be good to have a desk/writing space
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