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Am about to be a single parent for a few months as my spouse is going to another country for work. Any tips for how to manage a 3 year old while having a crazy workload?

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Explain to your child you are working.

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I don't but to be fair I come from an immigrant family. If my parents were working and I was being a pain even at 3 I knew what would happen if I disobeyed... I'd catch hands🙌🙌🙌

Take a LOA, take baby and travel with your spouse. Go make memories. Life is too short.

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Put the 3 year old to work. My 4 year old is learning how to make pretty slides from the senior consultants on my team. I’m about to starting billing my kids time to the client.

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At least their meals expense reports are just happy meals. I let them splurge for an ice cream or a cookie. I don’t have to worry about their bar tabs.

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Nanny, Family, Daycare, Activities to tire them out when you have time. If all that fails, time to take some personal time.

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Get an au pair. Less expensive than a nanny and you can space out their hours throughout the week to cover the most crucial times when you need to focus on work.

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A nanny

Nanny is best option but for some time if you can afford a part time schedule it could be helpful till you learn to manage it.

Lots of art supplies, if you WFH and are not in a zoom meeting, go to park use mobile hot spot. I have a 3 year old and twin 8 year olds its a beast. Does the child go to or could they. attend preschool/could you have a nanny for a few hours like maybe prime work time 10-2 so you wouldn't have huge expense and it might be easier to give you some quiet work time.

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There are temporary nannies. You can also go on NextDoor and look for a high school or college student that can come in the afternoon for a few hours. Your employer might have a referral program too.

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