Am i in the wrong? One of my close friends recently had a tussle with a female friend of his. (Some drama)

Anyway I haven't talked to her much. Now I find her inviting me to things and to hang out with her friends etc; he says he feel disrepected by this... should I keep her at a distance or continue hanging out? I know it bothers him.

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I'll give you the uncomplicated answer, pick the friend you think will be there for you the longest, in the most healthy way. Think with your brain for this one.

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Makes sense.

1) she using u
2) if she did it to him, she can do it to u

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So you’re telling me that a chick you’ve don’t interact with much is suddenly showing interest in you AFTER she got into some BS drama with you’re friends?

Maybe it’s just me but it sounds like you’re being used my boy.

I’d cut it off with her.

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I’d say it depends on which friendship you value more and what the tussle was about/how bad it was. B/c it doesn’t sound like you can do both

I don’t think you should automatically side with your close friend purely off of history. But if you really are close, you can probably side with him over an acquaintance and be happier for it in hindsight

(Answered with only the context I was given)

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Tl;Dr - you're in the wrong

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So you dont know the woman he got into a tussle with and now she's inviting you to stuff out of the blue?

If so, she sounds like a nutcase.

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Maybe I’ve seen Mean Girls one too many times but it sounds like she’s using you as a pawn to piss him off, imo. This woman doesn’t sound like she treated your friend well and while you’re entitled to make your own opinions, I don’t see why you’re interested in hanging with this woman who has proven to be sketchy in the past.

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I can’t understand why you would even entertain this person over one of your close friends.

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Just hangout and stop telling him, i don't think it's disrespectful at all

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Why is it he was bothered tho? The reason is important for context imo…

Based on several comments I think you know what the answer is. Unless you truly value this acquaintance

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Is he 13? Unless she did something truly heinous, he's being immature. He doesn't own you

@OP: So inviting his friends without inviting him while spreading rumors is her MO. Are you seriously entertaining this deranged person over supporting someone you described as a close friend?

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I was in a similar situation as you a few months ago, OP Basically cut off the friend that was bothered by it (let’s call her J)

J yelled at both me and her friend (call them B) for essentially not asking her “permission” to hang out and yelled at me specifically that I didn’t give her a heads up

Her friend B was new to town and had no friends so they asked me to hang out for a drink after work. I agreed to hang because B was a friend of J’s and just wanted to be friendly. J was not invited because she was out of town at her boyfriend’s cottage for the week.

J’s reaction to the whole thing was very childish and abusive. She yelled and screamed at us both for what we did like we betrayed her. Soooo overly dramatic. To top it off, J is in her late 30’s (almost a decade older than me).

Why are you deciding whether you want to hang out with a woman who spreads rumors about her “friends” over your actual friend lmao am I missing something?💀

Or do you have trouble with the opposite gender and you’re super excited that one wants to spend time with you (even though she’s clearly using you lmao)

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