Am I toxic? Going through something in my personal life and don’t want friends to know I’m having a tough time but also don’t want to explain my emotional state and I know I won’t be fun to hang out with. Can I just block them till I feel better?

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Just say you're going through a tough time and you'll let them know when you're up for going out again?

Blocking seems aggressive and way more dramatic and attention-seeking than just telling the truth.

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I wouldn't say it's toxic but it feels a little disrespectful. When they ask to hang out you could just say, "no thank you". They're not entitled to a reason as to why you don't want to hang out

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You’re not toxic but I think it’s worth letting your friends know you just need a little space and that you’ll explain when you’re feeling up to it. I am like you and disappear when I’m going thru tough times and it makes me friends worry so now I just let them know and they understand.

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Blocking is super toxic 😂

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Immature, not toxic

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Friends who care about you will want to know what’s up and hopefully be able to support you through it. I know I’d be bummed if any of my friends assumed I wouldn’t want to spend time with them while they were going though hard times.

I’m also so low energy and too drained to have the conversations then have friends press me on what’s wrong or try to come see me (some are like that).

I think it might partly be learning how to say no. If you want to say no then just say that. Don't offer an explanation, just say no. If they ask you why, say, "I'm sorry but I said no" and leave it at that. The more someone hears it, the more they learn that you mean it and stop asking why in the future.

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Have a narrative to explain briefly your struggle and say you are getting professional help. Tell them that you are taking a bit of time from all social connections until you figure it out. That is way better than blocking where they have no context and wondering what they did to you!

If they’re your friends, definitely share. That’s one exact thing that friends are good for :-)

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