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Sounds like he’s trying to signal to you that he’s open to action on the side. Which is slimy if you’ve never indicated you are into that. If you don’t have a relationship with his wife, you are not in a position to bring this to her attention. If he’s this brazen, he’ll put himself eventually.
Please do tell her. Wouldn’t you want someone to tell you if you were in her shoes?
Although a SUPER sensitive issue, I personally would want to be told if i was the wife.
But I also wouldn’t want to be told unless the teller was 100% certain and I don’t know that this qualifies. His action definitely feels sketchy but hard to definitively know anything from what I can tell.
I would tell her, just make sure you're very clear on the fact that you are not sure and just want to let her know so she can make her own decisions. Make sure she knows you won't judge.
If I were the wife I would like to know, knowing may be a life changing thing. I had a friend and his dad cheated on all of his 3 wives and ALWAYS got away with it because people kept covering for him. I personally believe that if someone decides to be in a monogamous relationship he/she should be held accountable. If he's doing it and showcasing, he'll do it again.
Now, if you do it you risk it that she won't believe you and for sure you will loose him as a friend. I would take the risk. I'm sick of men who cheat on their wives with all the people watching and letting it pass. If it were a woman cheating on the husband, people would be already talking.
Ignore...
But tell for what? She isn’t your friend, it’s not your business and why? Girl, move on.
You are assuming the wife doesn't already know
Exactlyyyyy
I would just do the first option. Wouldn’t be my place to interfere, especially as an ex... also it feels like he intentionally wants people to know, if he’s broadcasting this on Snapchat??
He sound really immature. I wouldn’t interfere. Stop engaging with him and let him deal with his problems.
Update: I asked if that was a new girlfriend. I'll see what he says..
Yeah I feel like all of this is a door into more drama. Don’t engage with him further.
Tell her anonymously maybe. I don’t think you should get involved personally but I would want to know.
Good point! But know that they may be able to trace it to you if you’re the only one he sent the snap to.
He sent me some Snapchats of him holding the hand of a girl with red acrylic nails (no face, just hand and body) and I know 100% his surgeon wife doesn't/can't wear nail polish. We don't really have extended convos but he does send me some messages/ pictures now and then. I feel super weird about this particular one... Should I just block him and go on living my life in peace? Tell his wife (who doesn't have any reason to trust me and probably doesn't want to talk to me anyway, since I am am ex)?
Also: they just had a baby last year.....
The poor, poor wife. God I just feel terrible. I wish I hadn't seen the picture.
What do want to get out of this? Are you trying to let him know you are disgusted? You want her to know so she can make an educated decision? Or you just don’t want to be friends with them/ him anymore?
I would tell his wife.
This is really tricky- I’d want to be told but would need to be shown proof if it’s an ex (As you never know peoples motives). I’d probably confront him (via whatever chat vehicle he’s revealing this on) and say something like, “wtf dude?” And go from there... sometimes people have open relationships or he may be signaling to you subtly that he’s game for something to happen. Either way, proceed with caution, as it sounds like you want to tell the wife.
If she tells you that she doesn’t believe you, will you let it go or be determined to prove her wrong? Make sure your motivations are really in the right place.
He’s your ex for a reason. 🤫