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An intern kicked off her first day of her 2-month internship saying she was stressed out because she needed a job. I’ve since been slightly unimpressed by her performance (it’s not creative - other story) but believe she can be formed. How do i tell her that you don’t tell a future potential employer that “you’re stressed out because you need a job”? They don’t understand it’s like dating (“im stressed out because I need to get married”) and want to set her up for success for the future.

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“Wait I’m confused” isn’t an emotion. She needs something clarified.


Haha I know I just feel extra sorry and patient with Covid right now 😄 thanks for your note.

It’s going to be tough right now if you’re both remote, but you may need to call her when she does these things if they are via written communication like the email and say something like “I’m here to set you up for success so I’ve noticed you often respond before taking time to process all the information. Next time you feel confused reread the messages a few times and write down your specific questions. Your managers can’t help you if they don’t know what wasn’t clear and maybe you will clear it up yourself if you take the extra time.” Or whatever the appropriate advice is for whatever she did. It’s easier to make it feel helpful if you’re having a conversation than via writing. She’s definitely not going to benefit from not hearing that what she’s doing isn’t going to fly at her first non-intern job.


I’m glad I could help. If you haven’t, read “Radical Candor.” Language is mine, but the ideas are from that book.


How do you tell her? You tell her. She needs honesty not coddling or avoidance.


Why not move on from her and get another intern?


She tends to display all her emotions with me (“wait - I’m confused” 🤦) and want to put a stop to it sooner than later and teach her how to behave professionally. Thanks for your thoughts.

@OP She's an intern. What do you expect? If it was someone with a few years under them and wasn't performing up to expectations I'd be upset. If she was assigned to you then you should be more patient with her. Be that mentor that you always wish you had. How would you help her ease her fears about finding work? What I've learned is that when you genuinely care about people and their development then they will be passionate about the work they do for you and exceed your expectations. When I can't make time for a person in my team the less effort I get them.

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