Any advice for a first time mom? I’ve got 5 weeks left of maternity leave and already dreading being away from the baby.

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Tell the baby not to be an accountant when he/she grows up

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It’s hard being away from baby, but you have to weigh if having a career is important to you in the long run. I’m on leave with #3 right now and have been hit with the reality that I actually really need this job for financial reasons (currently and for our future). My kids have grown up going to daycare and have learned so much and can easily make friends. I also remind myself that I wouldn’t be a good stay at home mom to toddlers. Leaving the infants is so hard, but it gets easier

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Wait till they are a toddler. You’ll be fighting with you SO over who gets to leave the house for 30 minutes

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I would start whatever childcare routine you plan on doing at least a week before you go back so you and the baby can ease in to it and work out any kinks.

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My advice is always have honest communication with your team and make up your mind what’s your priority. There is no work/life balance, you need to focus on one thing at a time. At work you focus on work, at home you focus on your child. If you feel that you see your baby too little and the work is too much, talk to your team, make them understand that baby is your priority right now. They grow way too fast. And if there is anyway for you to extend your maternity leave (even unpaid) do it. For me it was the best investment ever.

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Agree with EY1, Senior Manager 1, and EY2. I will be going on my third leave soon, Senior Manager, always full time. Ease yourself back into routine. Don’t expect perfection from yourself right out of the gate and be highly communicative with your teams when you return on what you need for support. My experience has been that almost everyone wants to see you succeed in your return but no one is a mind reader and they need you to be very clear and up front so they can provide that support to you. Don’t underestimate the support you can ask for from those both above and below you. Good luck and we’re cheering for your success, whatever you decide that looks like

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I’m going back in about 5 weeks as well after my 3rd baby. One thing that’s really helped me is transitioning back slowly. I’ve always done a combo of part time for a few weeks and my husband taking FMLA time so that it’s a slow transition for the whole family back to two working parents. And it’s easier for me that i just have to focus on getting myself out the door first before I need to be ready to get all of us out the door. I’ve also been fortunate to have good working mom role models ahead of me who’ve shown me that balance exists even though it’s not always the same week to week. I don’t have much to add that others haven’t already but I wish you well and hope you find what works for you best!

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I agree with the combo, i did it for all three. I worked in the morning to help me get ready for the day and then left at lunch. Remind yourself they sleep a lot during the time you are gone. My kids are older now and you almost need to go pt as they get older then when they are sooo little. I also didn’t have a picture up for sometime to keep my emotions down. When I knew I was ready I put up photos.

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This should make you feel better now. Can’t speak to the how you will feel in 5 weeks though.

Take something of the child’s with you.

If you can afford to extend your leave with unpaid time, do it. I didn’t have any push back from my partner or HR. EY 1 has good advice - have the baby start daycare the week before you go back and try to start getting in to a routine. Do what you need to do to get ready to return and then pick the baby up an hour or two early and cherish your time together. Explore an FWA if you can afford it as well. Not going to lie... it’s tough. Set expectations from the beginning when you get back like what time you have to leave to pick up the baby, that you’ll be busy until the baby goes to bed, that you may work during lunch here or there to catch up, etc. Hopefully you have a great team and at least one other mom

Beware your team may suck when you come back. I just got put on a PIP because I dared to make my new baby a priority over EY. Haven’t missed a deadline or turned in sub-par work all year, previously a 4-5 rating. It’s all in who you come back to

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